Don’t Put A Ring On It-Guest Post August 31, 2009

Today we’ll be enjoying a guest post from the love DCDatingDiva…Enjoy!

So recently, I was out and about in D.C., enjoying the nightlife and my yummy concoction of vodka mixed with Nuvo (hey it was on special for $5.00, sue me), so anyways, this guy starts up a conversation with me. After awhile, <strike>I’m bored with him</strike> ready to stop talking and just chill. He is not taking the hint, as I say I’m waiting on my “friends”. He scoots his stool a little bit closer. I lean away a little bit, but the music is now blaring and Mr. Not Getting The Point is still trying to converse. Normally, I would make up some lame excuse and walk away, but two things kept my butt planted right there on that barstool 1) I did not feel like standing and 2) my friends were sitting outside, trying to “see and be seen” and that is not my MO.

My friend sends me a text to see where I’m at. I respond quickly and tell her to come to the bar. Mr. Not Getting The Point is still talking to me. I think he see’s I’ve kinda shut down, and is now saying maybe “we” should go dance or check out another bar. I tell him, I’m hanging with my friends tonight, and am waiting on them, but the clueless dude tool is still chatting it up. My wing-girl finally comes up and I introduce them. She sits on the opposite side of me and I turn and start talking to her.

(Side Note: Mr. Not Getting The Point is still trying to yell pointless banter over the music)

So I tell my chick friend that she can’t go back outside, at least for a min, that Mr. Not Getting The Point is annoying me.

Chick Friend: that’s why I wear a fake wedding ring, you should wear one?

Me: Why, would I do that? Then people I actually want to talk to will see I have a wedding ring on, that’s stupid?

So our conversation brings me to my point. Why are you wearing a “fake wedding ring”? Do you still do it, have you done it in the past? Could you have potentially scared off the “man/woman” of your dreams, cause you had a “fake ring on it”. Hell, you might as well go all out and have a “fake wedding too!”

Diva

(Not a Proponent of the “fake” Ring On It)

Networking Sites and Dating… July 15, 2009

Today’s post is a guest post from my home itsniquey. Check it out..we hope you enjoy!

Do You Have a Profile?

“Even though I wanna see How you put that thang on me I can’t let you get the best of me”: Version 2.009

We’ve all heard of the “3 month rule,” “3date rule,” or some variation of the sort. Whatever the rule is, it’s all based on the same premise: if you’re at all intend on developing a serious relationship with a man there must be a certain amount of time between the initial meeting and the time when you decide to give him a taste. It’s a lesson that we’ve all learned from mothers, sisters, aunties, cousins, friends, and maybe even our own experience with the ‘hit it and quit its’ of the world. But as with everything else, technology has complicated things. In our increasingly net based realities, what constitutes the “initial meeting?”

Example: Girl ‘A’ meets Guy ‘B’ via a social networking website [taboo, I know, but it’s 2009 after all]. They have a few friends in common and essentially operate within the same social network. Girl ‘A’ has carefully perused his Facebook, Myspace, and Twitter pages, trying to determine whether or not he’s a psycho, player, pimp, or any combination of the three, and Guy ‘B’ in turn screens her pictures, for any hood rat activities. They’re in constant contact; her BB is abuzz with random texts, e-mails, and the conversations on Gmail are endless. They’ve connected-but they’ve never met. So they meet. All of the chemistry is there, the conversation is great. The only thing absent is the wall of awkwardness typically associated with a first date.

So what happens? Do the same rules apply? Should she stay? Should she go?

Speak on it…