Single Sisters Speak Out

The Modern Life of the Single Sister

How Far is Too Far?: Simping Male Edition August 16, 2010

Filed under: Single Sisters On... — FlawedBeauty @ 9:02 pm

<b>ADMIN Note: I realize none of us have written a thing in forever and honestly you might not be paying attention but I swear I’m gonna start writing again</b>

No, but really.

This past Saturday two of my favorite Twitter men, @jamarhudson & @DatDudeEasy, were tweeting with the hashtag #simpinsaturdays.  I just knew that two young educated (and too cool forwords brothers like them could not possibly condone simping.  I had to ask (and I won’t reveal the answer).

Anyways, yesterday I watched Our Family Wedding and saw the following scene:

In this one 16 second clip they have just explained to Lance Gross how emasculated he’ll be once he ties the knot.  I ran right back to Twitter and immediately asked if men would go for this… The answer I got was a resounding no.

Now… I’ve preached catering to your mate on this blog many a day, what I’m curious about is how far is too far?  At what point is a man or woman giving their mate too much?  I’m all ears!


The Great Marriage Debate May 24, 2010

Filed under: Single Sisters On... — FlawedBeauty @ 10:07 pm

As I listen to the news, read blogs and Twitter and just generally walk through the streets I am encountering more and more young women who are divorced.  It is somewhat troublesome to me that there are statistics out there which clearly state that Black women are less likely to be married, etc. First off, I want to be sure that it is understood there is nothing wrong with Black women wanting to be healthy, wealthy and wise on their on accord & I think a man should be able to share in this, but I am curious why Black women can’t have it all?

I am young, successful and black.  I have a very caring SO who is also young, successful and black.  I don’t think either one of us would have it any other way, but I also realize there’s a very sacred and strong understanding that each of us must play a certain role in order to make things work.  These roles are not defined by societal norms. but by what we as a couple have deemed the necessary parameters for each of us to dwell in so that our relationship is mutually beneficial to us in a variety of different ways.

What I am curious about then is why can’t married couples come up with the same degree of communication?  Is there no way to have a middle ground?  Is it possible that some of these issues are stemming from a lack of communication or self-worth and esteem or is it that we are all so selfish that we can’t see the forest for the trees?

Just a couple of muddled thoughts from a former blogger….


Amazing Grace April 6, 2010

Filed under: Single Sisters On... — cuzzo @ 6:52 am

Last week I watched Raquel Welch on Oprah talking about her life and aging. She has a new book out called “Raquel: Beyond the Cleavage”

I think she’s in her 70’s and she looks great. Oprah had other women on the show too who had in my opinions aged gracelyfully. They take care of their bodies, remain active and proabably do not look their ages because of that. I simply couldn’t wait to get old so I could speak my mind freely to these youth, heh heh. A lot of them are kinda scarey now. But, I can’t wait to just have time. Can you imagine that theory? We have more time as we get older.

After my children are grown, I have time to spend with grandkids, travel the world (not that I can’t now but I imagine it would be more enjoyable without time and money contraints), and so on. One woman spoke about how she learned to play the piano. I mean wow…time.


The Best thing about Being Black April 1, 2010

Filed under: Single Sisters On... — inkognegro @ 7:56 am

I cannot remember the last time someone had the balls to pull an April Fool’s Joke on me. Especially any kind of REAL joke that involve property damage or pain and suffering.

I am not the kind of individual that appears to be the kind of Cat who takes kindly to foolishness.

And I am not.

In honor of April Fool’s Day We celebrate some of the more proper uses of AFD

#7: Alabama Changes the Value of Pi

1998: The April 1998 issue of the New Mexicans for Science and Reasonnewsletter contained an article claiming that the Alabama state legislature had voted to change the value of the mathematical constant pi from 3.14159 to the ‘Biblical value’ of 3.0. Soon the article made its way onto the internet, and then it rapidly spread around the world, forwarded by email. It only became apparent how far the article had spread when the Alabama legislature began receiving hundreds of calls from people protesting the legislation. The original article, which was intended as a parody of legislative attempts to circumscribe the teaching of evolution, was written by physicist Mark Boslough.

Nixon for President

1992: National Public Radio’s Talk of the Nation program announced that Richard Nixon, in a surprise move, was running for President again. His new campaign slogan was, “I didn’t do anything wrong, and I won’t do it again.” Accompanying this announcement were audio clips of Nixon delivering his candidacy speech. Listeners responded viscerally to the announcement, flooding the show with calls expressing shock and outrage. Only during the second half of the show did the host John Hockenberry reveal that the announcement was a practical joke. Nixon’s voice was impersonated by comedian Rich Little.

1957: The respected BBC news show Panorama announced that thanks to a very mild winter and the virtual elimination of the dreaded spaghetti weevil, Swiss farmers were enjoying a bumper spaghetti crop. It accompanied this announcement with footage of Swiss peasants pulling strands of spaghetti down from trees. Huge numbers of viewers were taken in. Many called the BBC wanting to know how they could grow their own spaghetti tree. To this the BBC diplomatically replied, “place a sprig of spaghetti in a tin of tomato sauce and hope for the best.”

1998: Burger King published a full page advertisement in USA Today announcing the introduction of a new item to their menu: a “Left-Handed Whopper” specially designed for the 32 million left-handed Americans. According to the advertisement, the new whopper included the same ingredients as the original Whopper (lettuce, tomato, hamburger patty, etc.), but all the condiments were rotated 180 degrees for the benefit of their left-handed customers. The following day Burger King issued a follow-up release revealing that although the Left-Handed Whopper was a hoax, thousands of customers had gone into restaurants to request the new sandwich. Simultaneously, according to the press release, “many others requested their own ‘right handed’ version.”

1994: An article by John Dvorak in PC Computing magazine described a bill going through Congress that would make it illegal to use the internet while drunk, or to discuss sexual matters over a public network. The bill was supposedly numbered 040194 (i.e. 04/01/94), and the contact person was listed as Lirpa Sloof (April Fools backwards). The article said that the FBI was going to use the bill to tap the phone line of anyone who “uses or abuses alcohol” while accessing the internet. Passage of the bill was felt to be certain because “Who wants to come out and support drunkenness and computer sex?” The article offered this explanation for the origin of the bill: “The moniker ‘Information Highway’ itself seems to be responsible for SB 040194… I know how silly this sounds, but Congress apparently thinks being drunk on a highway is bad no matter what kind of highway it is.” The article generated so many outraged phone calls to Congress that Senator Edward Kennedy’s office had to release an official denial of the rumor that he was a sponsor of the bill.


Ink-Stained Mondays : A Micro Rant March 29, 2010

Filed under: Single Sisters On... — inkognegro @ 8:51 am

I spent last night in the Emergency Room of a children’s hospital, so I don’t make any pretense on giving a fuck about this particular post.  But Dammit, There has to be at least ONE of you lurking out there wondering,

“what is Inkognegro’s crazy ass going to say this week?”

Well, for that ONE of you, and whomever it is…Show your face so I can at least know that I am not hallucinating.

Well, here goes.

I am sick to death of the Internet.

I am sick of the Immediate gavel Banging and judgement by people whose sole stature for doing so is a cell phone or internet access.

You don’t like shit, fine.  Say you dont like it all day long.

But all this Endless Punditry by people who are barely equipped to talk about THEMSELVES, much less topics of import.

Cut that shit out.

What’s Killing you?


Parenthood…. March 23, 2010

Filed under: Single Sisters On... — Sunny @ 9:00 pm

…. is not what scares me.  I’ve often heard people wax poetic about “the beauty of life,”  “this little one is trusting  me with his/ her life,”  etc.   I’m not that deep.  Matter of fact, the second one sounds completely ridiculous to me.  I just heard it today, while watching ” A Baby Story.”  I love that show.    I love kids. They make me tear up because they have the power to brighten my day with the smallest action. Ok, back to the point of the post.

Parenthood is not scary to me.  I’ve been in mommy training mode since I was seven (I am the oldest of four). 

What scares me is, the nine months leading up to the birth, and the actual process of bringing her/him into this world.

I have been reading the blog of  a young lady who has been through a miscarriage.   It’s like she has let the world (by way of internet) into her life.  She writes candidly of the highs and lows as she and her husband try to become parents again.  It’s an extremely scary and emotionally trying process.  I couldn’t imagine how it feels to be on cloud nine one minute and grieving the next. 

On the other hand, my good friend just had a baby.  I got to hear about the growing pains of pregnancy. The achy back, the screwed up sleep due to discomfort.  (SUNNY does not PLAY with her sleep.)  Don’t even get me started on the stretching of the belly!  And not even for vanity’s sake, it’s just scary to have my belly go from the size of a cantelope (SUNNY could use some crunches) to a prize watermelon!!!   And I got full details on contractions.  Aye dios mio, it’s enough to totally make me forget the  beauty of it. 

So I just worry… everytime I think of it.  Luckily, there  is no pregnancy plans for me in the near future (who am I kidding, who actually “plans” this? lol), so I still have time to mow this thing over in my head.  Hopefully God has mercy on me and pain during the process (PLEASE, Lawd!!!!!)

How about you guys?  Are any of you scared of becoming a parent?  For those of you who already have children, what were you scared about beforehand?  Did you find those fears to be unrealistic?


The Black Racist

Filed under: Single Sisters On... — cuzzo @ 8:27 am
Tellin' it like it is

Nobody's more racist than an old black man - C. Rock

I do not hate other races. I wish us all well in this country, both foreign (as long as you learn the language of course) and domestic.  I also make fun of all races equally including my own. If racism (true racism – the HATRED, the CAPTIVITY and DOMINATION of person’s) never existed, I believe we could all laugh at ourselves without pressure and without shame. The slightest thing such as a some accents are funny to me, I don’t know why they are funny…they just are. Beyond accents…voices (like Wendy Williams and her “how you doin” or Elmer Fudd’s speech impediment) in general can be funny to me as well but, we are talking about race here.

To finish the Chris Rock joke (and his pic is only up there because he’s a black person not because I feel he’s racist because I don’t): “Nobody’s more racist than an old black man because they went through some real racism. None of this I can’t catch a cab sh!t…he WAS the cab. A white man would jump on his back and say “MAIN STREET”. *jockey motions*”

Now recently a Walmart in Pennsylvania was in the news because allegedly a 16-year-old white male stated on their PA system, “All black people leave the store now.” Of course everyone was shocked an appalled by the statement, but as I was reading comments about this story, someone pointed out something very critical, Would it still be considered racism if “All white people…” was said instead? And, seriously, I’m on the fence. It makes me think back to the original incident…no derogatory terms were used…no physical harm was caused…they weren’t serious, it was just a kid…so, where’s the racism?

In writing, I begin to think about hate crimes. I’ve never heard of a black person, or person of  any other race (non-white) commiting a hate crime against a white person.  If anything WE (black people) kill each other, between gangs and utter foolishness, we can truly be our own worst enemy. Now, unraveling my own thoughts, I don’t think racism truly exists unless it’s acted upon. How can you survive in this society without interacting with someone who claim to “hate”? And that’s what racism is supposed to be right? Hatred. But, is it pure hatred or those ACTS of hatred that make a person racist?

Please weigh in on the Walmart incident and what’s known as “reverse racism” (black people that hate other races). Is racism all in our minds?