We’ve confused the hell out of of dating and courting.
Per Wikipedia, dating is defined as “any social activity performed as a pair or even a group with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as their partner in a intimate relationship or as a spouse.” Courting is defined as ““a man’s courting of a woman; seeking the affections of a woman (usually with the hope of marriage)” AND
“behavior that goes on prior to mating.”
Dating should be fun… Dating should be like shopping for that perfect pair of jeans that hugs your booty just right. You don’t stop at the first pair, where the length is right but it gives you that MC Hammer crotch thing. You keep going until you find those that are for you. These jeans aren’t going transform everybody…. but for you???? Perfection!
IMHO, good sex puts you in a “dumb fog”. You start to accept things you normally wouldn’t, including late night booty calls and drive-thru dates. For women, I call this d***notized.
Right now I belong to The Celibacy Club. The “dumb fog” is one of the reasons that I’ve decided to refrain. I’ve had too many situations where I’ve allowed my hormones to take over my good sense. Sure, all of my past wastes of good air men have said “sex won’t change anything,” but how many times do you have to touch the hot stove before knowing you’ll get burned? It ALWAYS changes things..
I’m not saying I won’t have sex until marriage (although I am trying my hardest not to) but I do want a steady committed relationship before I indulge again. Until then, I’m exercising patience and other ways of satisfaction, while in search for my perfect pair of jeans.
What say you?