Hey Everyone! Today’s guest post was written by our girl Cuzzo, who hangs out with us over at the ” Treehouse .” Enjoy!
“Girl when you call my phone
Just say what’s on your mind, ok?
Don’t call and hang up, I’m not into that …
you want me to tell you sumthin? Lemme tell you sumthin …”
– Lady Saw, I Got You Man
This post was inspired by the Comeback Girl: Two Chicks and a D!ck. I was having a discussion with a male friend about this the other night. I brought up an old conversation that I’d had with a female friend about that unwritten law of calling “the other woman.” Well, I figured every woman was like me and would want the truth, and if the shoe was on the other foot, in turn, they would tell the truth to the girlfriend/wife. Nope!
My friend is a d!ck’s chick and said she has been in that position and didn’t say nuttin – something to the effect of I ain’t got nuttin to do with ya’ll…you’re on your own, ask ya man. I was like – WTF! Are you serious? I can’t see myself responding that way because I’d be honest to the gf/wife (as the other) and if it were me (as the gf/wife) I’d hope the other woman would be honest too.
Well, long story longer my male friend was telling me that some women feel like they have a pact with other woman (the chick’s chick) while many others don’t (d!ck’s chick). I wouldn’t tell the truth to cause anarchy in their relationship (which is what he thinks women do) – it’s just well, the truth. He told me that some women would just say no, we’re friends, nothing’s going on, don’t know what you’re talking about, etc. knowing they are sleeping with this man. I chalked it up to selfishness and desperation. Selfish because they’re trying to have that piece of the man for themselves – knowing he has a woman. Desperate because well, GET YO OWN D@MN MAN! In this case – sharing is NOT caring (unless all parties are informed and agree to share).
Update: I was called by a woman (my son’s father’s other child’s mother, who he lives with) and I told the truth – we slept together. She already knew. We all already know when our man is cheating (in this case, they weren’t together…his and her words – he just well, lied about seeing me) and we call to get that validation. Well, a mutual friend of our’s (an older man) said what I did was cheap and spiteful. I shouldn’t have told her about our relationship because it’s my (and our – me and his) business, not her’s, if she doesn’t have control of her man. I just do not see it this way. He (my son’s father) even asked why did I tell her anything…n!gga, she already knew.
Ladies: Have you called? Been called? What did you do?
Fellas: Have you had to call? (prob not! lol) Anything similar happen to you?
Contributed By: Cuzzo