We women always want to feel soft and pink, but what about when the man of the house feels the need to be pampered?
Well, I say go right ahead and do such a thing. Women are holding it down more and more as Ms. Independent but that doesn’t mean that they don’t have to do a little catering to their man. My fellow treehouse sisters may agree with me on some points, but disagree on others. I believe that it is just as important to shower your man with love and affection, regardless of what his status in your life may be.
If you know that he is your provider and holds you down financially then maybe it’s not a bad idea to sometimes say “I got it”. Nothing (well something 😉 keep reading) can brighten his day more.
If you know that he is support system and comforter…when you see him down instead of simply saying he’s a man and he can handle it OR pushing him to give you answers back away from him. Give him a chance, sometimes maybe all he needs is to see you smile or to know that you are unburdened and maybe that might ease his.
Sometimes if he’s not doing one of those things or if he is he is your late night get right. You know can call him regardless of the hour to come and set things off. Don’t be shy…get yourself some Vickie’s and some nice shower gel, a few candles and get to work dropping like it’s hot on that rod, in rain or otherwise…(that one’s for you Nic)
Now finally, over at Blogxilla we got shout out about 20 things to do for your woman…but since this is for single ladies…let’s discuss a few things to do for your man…
First off ladies…it is football season and it is basketball season and if that’s what your man likes…turn the game on, put some sandwiches on the table, get cute and go out with your girls. Secondly, all this talk about Jazzmine Sullivan and busting out windows has me thinking maybe you should get the car wash and shined up all purty…cause it’s his toy (think about how much you love your Louis and Prada).
Now…with all that said…maybe you ought to give him a free pass to go out with the boys no questions asked. I know that’s hard BUT love and trust are one in the same. So if you love him, you need to be able to trust him and let him do his thing. Lastly I am going to highlight a top five from BlogXilla:
5. Support him. -This is the biggest thing on the list. Just because he’s a man and king of his castle doesn’t mean that he doesn’t need you to stand behind him and say baby, you can do this and I believe in you. Don’t nag when he feels like a failure. Just…shut up and listen. Let him talk, sometimes he just needs you to listen and be his sounding board.
4. Love him for who he is. When you met him he was a certain way and it is my sincerest hope that everyone walks away with a man who is secure in himself and who he is as a person. I am the same person now I was at 16, at 9 and even at 4. I was big-hearted and generous and sweet and I still am…so let your man be that person. Don’t try to change him and please don’t try to raise him-that’s not your job his mama already did it.
3.Tell him how much he means to you both in the bedroom and out. There’s a man out there with a big bright smile and curly hair who is the best person I know and I don’t hesitate to tell him this everyday. This is the person that you are intimate with, that you share things with…you should be able to express just exactly how you feel.
2. Do what he likes to do. Is he a Trekkie? Like electronics? Golf?-Try your hand at some of it. It’s not the worst idea in the world, especially if that man has ever set foot in a mall with you.
And for number 1-I’ma stick with the gentleman’s opinon.
1.Give him head. Make it good. Suck it back and swallow…(I’m just the messenger ya’ll)
As a final thought, in these trying times remember that he’s likely got a lot going on…don’t push..just let it flow. Trust me he’s probably giving you his last cause he’s thinking of you first (even if he just hasn’t quite committed. More on that tomorrow.