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Woman, Lover, Friend….PGF? December 5, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — FlawedBeauty @ 12:01 am

Now that we’ve listened to a little poetry and gotten our culture on…let’s discuss something. See recently on the blog’s we’ve been seeing this three letter “word” PGF…well we’ve been trying to figure out what that means…

The first thing that I want to make sure everybody understand is that each and everyone of us single sisters is a PGF. Yep, you heard me you’re a PGF too. If you don’t believe me take this scenario into play:

You’re on a fabulous date smelling like your best and most expensive perfume. You look fly…your date’s fly and spark’s are flying. You leave your date and he kisses you and tells you he enjoys spending time with you. You agree and you two make plans to see each other at a later date. You have just become PGF.

Yes, you are now a potential girlfriend. Said gentleman is now trying to figure out if you are someone he wants his life permanently. He’s not telling you that you can’t kick it with others or anything like that…and you’re not telling him that either. You continue to go out and have a wonderful time. You are there for him and he is there for you. It is a symbiotic relationship. After awhile, you may grow to be more than a romantic relationship…meaning you are now lovers and friends. You have built a foundation, but you are not ready to take it to the next level. You’re still potential. Even if you move into together, have babies, buy a tv. POTENTIAL is key until they full commitment has been discussed and decided upon.

Now because this is important, you don’t rush it and you don ‘t harm that person. You just do what you have to do to make it.  I say this because it doesn’t make sense to have someone who is going to be good to you, but not try to grow with them.  If you can see obvious progress with this person and real progression towards a real, stable committed relationship.

Tell me how  you really feel…I’m ready.

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109 Responses to “Woman, Lover, Friend….PGF?”

  1. I’ve played this role plenty of times but I REFUSE to do it anymore.

    PGF is cool with me while we are multitasking… once you bring s3x in, it’s a whole ‘notha ball game.

    I think as a PGF, you are selling yourself short. He is laying down with you, but since you’re not worthy of commitment, he can go lay down with the next chick and you can’t complain. Nine times out of ten the woman is supposed to wait until the man feels like he’s ready for only her. notgonnabeabletodoit.

    This may sound bitter, but this is the way I see it.

  2. RunningMom Says:

    I’m so in this RIGHT NOW. I’m not ready to blog about it yet, but lemme just say the single life and being the PGF is getting old.

  3. Holly GoLightly Says:

    “You’re on a fabulous date smelling like your best and most expensive perfume. You look fly…your date’s fly and spark’s are flying. You leave your date and he kisses you and tells you he enjoys spending time with you. You agree and you two make plans to see each other at a later date. You have just become PGF.”

    Minus the kissing I guess I became a PGF last night!!!

    @ Nick- I agree been there done that… however I thought PGF meant Part-time Girlfriend…. My new motto is why give someone full-time benefits who’s just a part-time worker…

  4. “someone full-time benefits who’s just a part-time worker…”

    AMen!

  5. 80's Baby Says:

    Hey yall..again..lol….. Yall already know how I feel about this… Been there done it and ain’t doin it again. I know everyone is a PGF in the beginning. But it’s still like you only let someone do what you allow them to. And I refuse to allow someone to have their cake and eat it too any longer because pretty much all it boils down to is that it’s an EXCUSE for him not to commit…….. Because when he says that he’s ready what’s to say that you’re still going to be interested because of all the BS you went through when he wasn’t ready. No, I will not play the role of wifey any more unless I have the official title…. If I’m not your girlfriend then don’t introduce me to the damn parents and all that other BS….

    When we’re getting to know each other and in the multi-tasking that @zz process it’s all cool to be the PGF but I ain’t being no PGF FOREVA!!!!

  6. Holly GoLightly Says:

    80’s that’s another good phrase- people only do what you allow them to do.

  7. No More Heroes Says:

    From what hear from women it seems like its ok to be the PGF as long as you do not do any of the following:

    Help him financially
    Decide to stop dating other men
    Cook for him
    Let him stay with you
    Become sexually intimate

    As soon as you do any one of those things then the man owes you a commitment.

  8. Holly GoLightly Says:

    Hmm its ok to be PGF if yall have the same common goal at the end… if he is seeking to be in a relationship… at least to me. What I hate is when get stuck in a rut and let a man do any and everything to her and she giving him all the benefits and he isnt trying to be with her like that. What you do for your man is what you do for your man- everybody has their own set of expectations and things that they will and won’t do and under what circumstances.

  9. thecomebackgirl Says:

    too much Dam2n thikin on a friday for me LOL..but let me take a shot..***wait, crazy comeback aside..i just re-read this and this post warrants like a major summit meeting and some expansion”

    “Now because this is important, you don’t rush it and you don ‘t harm that person. You just do what you have to do to make it. I say this because it doesn’t make sense to have someone who is going to be good to you, but not try to grow with them. If you can see obvious progress with this person and real progression towards a real, stable committed relationship.”..

    what exactly do youo mean by this JAC? a man knows EXACTLY who is and and isn’t wifeable..imma say within one or two dates..so i would venture to say after 30 days if he hasn’t even put you and marriage in the same sentence (even jokingly) he doesn’t SEE you as wifey. so why hang around for more pixie dust and time wasting…im not saying that you can’t date for 5 or 6 years..but if its not clear where you’re going SOON why hang around.

  10. “From what hear from women it seems like its ok to be the PGF as long as you do not do any of the following:

    Help him financially
    Decide to stop dating other men
    Cook for him
    Let him stay with you
    Become sexually intimate

    As soon as you do any one of those things then the man owes you a commitment.”

    @No More: He doesn’t owe me… he just shouldn’t expect me to do any of that until I’m his GF.

  11. Holly GoLightly Says:

    he just shouldn’t expect me to do any of that until I’m his GF.

    well said Nick

  12. Jac Says:

    Comeback-Everything said is with the assumption that he has done these things but is not ready for some reason like financially, etc. to fully support you as his wife with the possibility of children etc.

  13. No More Heroes Says:

    “so i would venture to say after 30 days if he hasn’t even put you and marriage in the same sentence (even jokingly) he doesn’t SEE you as wifey.”

    Wow…that so incorrect, its amazing how you even believe that.

  14. Holly GoLightly Says:

    NoMo/Comeback

    I wouldn’t say 30 days but maybe in 6-9 mos if it hasnt been played with then there’s a problem…

  15. Britt Says:

    Hi ladies! I am curious about this PGF (new term for me). Can you be a PGF with no s3x???

  16. Jac Says:

    he just shouldn’t expect me to do any of that until I’m his GF.

    Why is there this thing of expectation? Why can’t it just be you remaining who you are and him remaining who he is?

  17. Holly GoLightly Says:

    But Jac, a lot of people start having expectations of one another soon as numbers are exchange… Prime example, when you go on that first date you expect him to pay.

  18. Holly GoLightly Says:

    It would be great if people could never change….

  19. No More Heroes Says:

    “Why is there this thing of expectation? Why can’t it just be you remaining who you are and him remaining who he is?”

    Because people are selfish and no one wants to take the time to get to know somebody. Now its like, “you like me, I like you, lets put a label on this situation so I can feel comfortable doing things for you.”

  20. thecomebackgirl Says:

    ” but is not ready for some reason like financially, etc. to fully support you as his wife with the possibility of children etc.”

    how long does it take for a man to get ready..and is anybody ever really ready..im 33 and i aint ready shat.

  21. Holly GoLightly Says:

    Comeback it’s like you said the other day when the RIGHT woman comes along its funny how mofos are all of sudden ready then!

  22. thecomebackgirl Says:

    “I wouldn’t say 30 days but maybe in 6-9 mos if it hasnt been played with then there’s a problem…”

    I disagree Holster..and NO NO..I disagree too.

    this goes back to 3rd eyeing the situation. Im not saying that he MARRIES you in 30 days..it could take 3 years. But I don’t think a woman GROWs into marriage material.

    Which I guess makes me also in disaggreance with Jac’s and your NoNo’s theory on PGF..they don’t really exist for serious minded people. this is kind of more bullshyt artistry and def if people talking PGF over the age of 30 something is seriously wrong.

  23. Holly GoLightly Says:

    I agree Comeback that we don’t grow into being marriage material…

    but let ask you this 30 days in what point time? You guys dating PGF/PBF? Or being actually together- exclusively?

  24. “Can you be a PGF with no s3x???”

    Good question.. I wonder that too.

  25. Holly GoLightly Says:

    “Can you be a PGF with no s3x???”

    I think it depends on your requirements, standards, and expectations.

  26. Why is there this thing of expectation? Why can’t it just be you remaining who you are and him remaining who he is?

    I will remain who I am while looking out for Me. I will not be used.

    What happens if you’ve done all this stuff, get feelings for this man, and he sleeps with someone else? I’m not okay with that.

  27. No More Heroes Says:

    So basically in 30 days I’m supposed to know if you are the woman I’m going to marry. In one month. Seriously?

  28. No More Heroes Says:

    “What happens if you’ve done all this stuff, get feelings for this man, and he sleeps with someone else? I’m not okay with that.”

    Isnt that possible with any relationship, no matter how much work you put in?

  29. Jac Says:

    Lots of things going on over here…sorry I am slacking…

    Comeback: I think these people are aware of exactly what is what. Some people are more ready than others and make it work faster. And you cannot instantly make me your girlfriend. I am going to need to have more of a foundation with you than that. I need to be your friend, your lover, your confidante…honestly for me this person is going to have to be my best damned friend the one who knows everything. That’s not contingent on whether I’m wifey material or not…because honestly all the women on the blog are wifey material, but how many of them are wives?

    “Can you be PGF with no sex?”

    Sure you can. If this is something that you two have talked about and agreed upon then yes, if not then no…which points to a problem because you don’t have similar morals and values, or maybe the person isn’t that into you (better to know that now than later)

  30. Jac Says:

    “What happens if you’ve done all this stuff, get feelings for this man, and he sleeps with someone else? I’m not okay with that.”

    “Isnt that possible with any relationship, no matter how much work you put in?”

    This is possible with every relationship.

    Ask Bill and Hillary…

    Ask Carlita and Kwame…

    Ask Jackie O and JFK

    Furthermore, check out the AIDS rate for people in the grandma category who have been married 40 years plus and their man has some Viagra and is out f*cking hatless…40 years 3/4 kids some grandkids…a life built that some damned feelings and yet he still did it.

  31. thecomebackgirl Says:

    “Comeback: I think these people are aware of exactly what is what. Some people are more ready than others and make it work faster. And you cannot instantly make me your girlfriend. I am going to need to have more of a foundation with you than that. I need to be your friend, your lover, your confidante…honestly for me this person is going to have to be my best damned friend the one who knows everything. That’s not contingent on whether I’m wifey material or not…because honestly all the women on the blog are wifey material, but how many of them are wives?”

    jac this is some fragginackal bull…

    a) yes we are all wifey material..but what men consititute as wifey varies till the day is long…see the two men i was supposed to marry. one wifey size does NOT fit all. And i kind of thank God for that.

    b) “And you cannot instantly make me your girlfriend.” why do you as a women think GF is the be all end all? its NOT. Half the men on these blogs have GF’s and have you seen the subject matter?

    c…ready is really relevant here. REALLY..like i said im not ready. I wasn’t in 2003 or 2007. But if the right man came along…i would most DEF no it. and would see my @zz gettin rather ready rather fast..and not for some ole PGF bs….men dont go through these PGF changes when all the alarms are sounding….they just arent

  32. Jac Says:

    a)I’m pretty sure I’m glad it didn’t equal up for me too.

    b)GF is not the end all be all. I am privileged to have someone who has mentioned making me his wife, buying houses, vacations and having a life with me. And I see the subject matter. At the end of the day they are all men. They are going to be men…You either deal with it or you don’t but I’m not living my life in fear of what that might mean.

    c)I think the biggest thing with being ready is finances…right now whose finances are so cool they are willing to carry extra burdens. Furthermore, from what I can tell NMH’s PGF knows what he does for her and vice damned versa same with me and L. No matter what goes down each of us are johnny on the spot and could give less than a shit about a damned title. But the two of us are women who have to sit and have those conversations…it’s not easy to admit but it is what the hell it is

  33. “Isnt that possible with any relationship, no matter how much work you put in?”

    Hopefully, if he’s in a relationship, he’s not going out sleeping with anyone else..

    If he is, may his balls fall off.

  34. Jac Says:

    “If he is, may his balls fall off.”

    I don’t think MLK’s fell off.

    I’m dead @ u Nic

  35. thecomebackgirl Says:

    “c)I think the biggest thing with being ready is finances”

    maybe im looking at this wrong..or it could be that you and i span the largest age gap here..

    but for most men this is A REGRET after “wifin” a wifey. Its not a pause for cause (maybe sadly so) when a man LOVES a woman enough to want to slow the party down.

  36. ****pumps Jac’s chest and gives count of three ***

  37. Jac Says:

    eh…my cousin’s agree with me…they old.

    It’s just that…I think for me and a few others I know it’s a lifestyle thing.

  38. I think it’s a lifestyle thing too… people are just into different stuff

  39. **sigh***

    Okay this is real talk. Us men, we really like you. Women are quite possibly the greatest thing on earth since…well, the earth.

    But from a guy, I can say this. We feel pressured.

    What does a guy want? We simply be with you, and let everything flow naturally, and have a great time. Men value freedom.

    What does a woman want? A ring on it. Definition. Where is this going? Job security. Women value comfort.

    Why do I say this? I don’t know lol. Quit pressuring us so much, and maybe we could actually find out how great you are. Let’s face it…when it comes to relationships, women are 210x’s smarter than guys. Let us have our “ah ha” moment, so we can give yall the world.

    Sinceriously,
    Why. So. Serious.

  40. juniorthenupe Says:

    @ nicki, while you’re at it, you can come pump my chest too

    Although I have a different perspective on this. You are deemed a PGF WELL before a date, well before phone numbers are exchanged, hell…well before we even go up to you and say hello.

    I already know whether you are ripe for some one night loving, or whether I see potential wedding bells in the future. I think I can safely say that most guys go for attraction first, then hope that you have the intangibles that are inherent to a good girl after.

  41. Holly GoLightly Says:

    Junior you have definitely shed the light on this issue!! Thanks a millie!!

  42. Jac Says:

    Whyso-Praises my friend. Just let it flow and see where that gets you…don’t push let him learn on his own.

    Jr-I knew I liked you. Aside from your attractiveness and all…you are a smart brotha.

  43. thecomebackgirl Says:

    “Let us have our “ah ha” moment, so we can give yall the world.

    im sorry as much i wanna go half on some blog babies wit whywhy he is WRRRROOOOONGGG

    and it hurts my soul to type it.

    there IS NO PRESSURE…EVER not from me. But lets be clear men ARE sure about what is and isn’t GF material. bottom line. PGF is some ole pergatory bullshyt artistry..

    and if a man doesn’t know she’s GF material on date 3…please explain to me how a man knows this on Year 8??

    help me understand.

  44. @juniorthenupe: ***revives junior with more than a pump on the chest ***…

    J/K

    Welcome to the blog and thanks for contributing….

    Whyso thanks for spreading profoundness. 😉

    I don’t pressure men.. I’m not that girl that says, “we need to talk. What is this, what are we doing? blah blah.”

    I wait… but how long is a woman supposed to wait? Good grief

  45. thecomebackgirl Says:

    “Whyso-Praises my friend. Just let it flow and see where that gets you…don’t push let him learn on his own.”

    im sorry JAC on a certain level i can understand this..the fundamentals of this theory are WRONG. I read and lurk on blogs with NOTHING but women who are hangin on to things that are clear as the day is long, that a) he is not that into you b) you are wasting your time.

    im sorry i can t endorse to a women to just hang in there and see where it goes…where she isn’t sure about his intentions. im not saying to dump him either. I do endorse a multi taskation of the @zz..if he’s isn’t sure..why should she be either.

    come on…

  46. I agree with comeback.

  47. No More Heroes Says:

    Nicki: “I wait… but how long is a woman supposed to wait? Good grief”

    How ever long you feel like it. It aint a contract, you can dip whenever you want.

    Comeback: “Im sorry i can t endorse to a women to just hang in there and see where it goes…where she isn’t sure about his intentions”

    Why isnt she sure about his intentions? All she has to do is ask.

  48. “How ever long you feel like it. It aint a contract, you can dip whenever you want.”

    I can’t do it..

    The last guy told me that over and over that he wasn’t ready to commit bc he was trying to get life for his daughter together, BUT YET

    he wanted me to purposely get pregnant without a commitment, withought a wedding ring… He got mad because I wouldn’t have a baby with him.

    WTF is that?

  49. thecomebackgirl Says:

    “Why isnt she sure about his intentions? All she has to do is ask.”

    ok NONO you are supposing tho that men are as honest as you are..why ask when he’s actions dictate who he really is.

  50. No More Heroes Says:

    “I read and lurk on blogs with NOTHING but women who are hangin on to things that are clear as the day is long, that a) he is not that into you b) you are wasting your time.”

    Thats on them. I dont understand how you just stick around in a situation that you dont like. Talk about the situation and if you arent getting the answers you need or you dont like the answers you are getting, then step out. How hard is that to grasp?

  51. thecomebackgirl Says:

    i agree wit sunny

    i never had to ask it was always clear as day to me. And once or twice in my life it wasn’t in my favor. So i bounced.

    some of this is about women being honest with themselves even when he CANT BE.

  52. No More Heroes Says:

    “why ask when he’s actions dictate who he really is.”

    Then leave! If you dont think he is worth waiting for then dont wait. Right?

  53. thecomebackgirl Says:

    i honestly don’t feel i have to Ask NO NO..i really dont..

  54. “some of this is about women being honest with themselves even when he CANT BE.”

    AMEN! I’ve heard from women, “why dont’ he just leave me alone?”

    Well, fool how about you leave him alone????

    If he’s not saying it, they are not believing/doing it….
    CoDependant Personality traits

  55. No More Heroes Says:

    Nicki: “he wanted me to purposely get pregnant without a commitment, withought a wedding ring… He got mad because I wouldn’t have a baby with him.

    WTF is that?”

    A no good nagga, which is what he wouldve been regardless if you committed or not.

  56. No More Heroes Says:

    “i honestly don’t feel i have to Ask NO NO..i really dont..”

    Ok. Dont ask. But ONE OF YALL should be communicating something. If both of yall sit around and avoid the serious questions then everyone deserves whatever they get.

  57. Humble One aka Killa Black Says:

    I would like to say I cosign No More 100% on this topic.

  58. No More Heroes Says:

    “ok NONO you are supposing tho that men are as honest as you are..”

    Well if youre messing with a dishonest man then youre gonna be screwed wheter you are PGF, GF, wife, etc.

  59. “A no good nagga, which is what he wouldve been regardless if you committed or not.”

    Exactly.. but the thing is, he was ready for another child, but not ready to commit bc he wanted to build a life for his daughter.

    My point is… there are all kinds of excuses…

  60. thecomebackgirl Says:

    NoNo check this tho LOL..im rhymin

    for realdon’t you think there is more than one way to say something..its not all mouth. Its mostly action to me.

  61. Junior Says:

    @ nicki, what are you talking about, I’ve been harassing y’all for months! Oh, I see, I was actually logged into word press at the moment, and junior was taken whenever it was that I signed up, but never mind. Just don’t start nothing, it won’t be nothing! Shoot, it has been 11 months and 5 days…

    @ comeback, I have to agree with you, sit around and wait if you want to. We’ll be 65 years old and still “just kicking it” lmao! I’m assuming that whyso meant more so to not be a nagger in regards to it. Let someone who isn’t beyonce tell me “if you like it then you should’ve put a ring on it”, you will be looking real ringless for a long time! If I don’t pop that ring on someone else!

  62. No More Heroes Says:

    Comeback: “for realdon’t you think there is more than one way to say something..its not all mouth. Its mostly action to me.”

    I agree. So if you are PGF and the man isnt making any actions to try and reach whatever goal that yall set (hopefully getting whatever issues resolved so that both parties feel comfortable being totally committed) then obviously he wasnt serious about it in the first place.

  63. thecomebackgirl Says:

    another thing tho too…it doesnt always have to have an unhappy ending. People get so fixated on the destination and the outcome when the variable (ie person) could be different…im not tryin to be depressing and what not..but sometimes what will be …will just be with someone else.

    thats whatwomen forget. i have seen it too many times when a woman showed up at the wrong time and a dude made it happen. to me maybe its the person too.

  64. Humble One aka Killa Black Says:

    “some of this is about women being honest with themselves even when he CANT BE.”

    I think this goes back to women entertaining their fantasies.

  65. Jac Says:

    “there IS NO PRESSURE…EVER not from me. But lets be clear men ARE sure about what is and isn’t GF material. bottom line. PGF is some ole pergatory bullshyt artistry..”

    You’re not all women.

    I do endorse a multi taskation of the @zz..if he’s isn’t sure..why should she be either.

    Never said she shouldn’t.

    he wanted me to purposely get pregnant without a commitment, withought a wedding ring… He got mad because I wouldn’t have a baby with him.

    Shoulda sliced his dick.

    ok NONO you are supposing tho that men are as honest as you are..why ask when he’s actions dictate who he really is.

    who wants a liar?

    Talk about the situation and if you arent getting the answers you need or you dont like the answers you are getting, then step out. How hard is that to grasp?

    It’s not.

  66. @Junior: LOL. My bad homie. I saw the new pic and the new name… you got aliases. announce yo’self!

    “Shoulda sliced his dick.”

    Ouch! I don’t even have one and I grabbed my crotch. LOL

  67. thecomebackgirl Says:

    I agree Junior..but i don’t think i ever mentioned marriage..and maybe thats where the signals get crossed. what women don’t know is that Jay put a ring on it some six years later.

    im not talking about ceromony here.

    i am talking about the bells and whistles that ring in a man’s ear.

    different story.

    i think I just hate the PGF notion. I HATE IT. im sorry No No i hate the abbreviatioin i hate the word.

    to me there are connotations of him multitaskin dat azz while she’s hangin on to pixie.

  68. thecomebackgirl Says:

    “I think this goes back to women entertaining their fantasies.

    hummy i may gotta agree here.

  69. 80's Baby Says:

    to me there are connotations of him multitaskin dat azz while she’s hangin on to pixie.

    @ comeback…And this is what it boils down to… Especially in my situation. Yes I was guilty of hanging to pixie.. But no more dammit!!!!

  70. Jac Says:

    “I think this goes back to women entertaining their fantasies.”

    And it isn’t that.

  71. No More Heroes Says:

    Nicki: “Ouch! I don’t even have one and I grabbed my crotch. LOL”

    Yeah that was harsh.

    Comeback: “i think I just hate the PGF notion. I HATE IT. im sorry No No i hate the abbreviatioin i hate the word.

    to me there are connotations of him multitaskin dat azz while she’s hangin on to pixie.”

    No apolgies necessary, Im not trying to convert anyone. As far as him multitasking and her hangin on, I dont endorse that unless for some reason thats her desire. You just cant save everyone.

  72. Jac Says:

    “to me there are connotations of him multitaskin dat azz while she’s hangin on to pixie.”

    See…nope…you always have the option.

  73. I am all for multitasking and having fun…

    Just not trying to add the deep stuff until we get exclusive!

  74. Humble One aka Killa Black Says:

    Why is it so hard for people that have may have strong feelings for each other to still do them? Nobody is telling you to not multi-task. If a dude is not willing to commit to you and thats what you want then leave him. Its that simple.

  75. @ nicki, my bad my bad, I’ll make sure to keep it in line next time, but I think I’ve fixed it…but go ahead and grab that crouch again girl…just slowly this time… LMAO!

    I guess eventually though, i can’t disagree with the guys either, eventually, the lovely ladies just have to look up and smell the roses and know when to get out of those bad situations. We will sell you a dream and not wake you up until we’ve moved on.

  76. thecomebackgirl Says:

    “I am all for multitasking and having fun…

    Just not trying to add the deep stuff until we get exclusive!

    and thats not what JAC is suggesting in her orginal post and i think that is what was like firing me up.

    She suggested waiting and supporting and all that bullshyt

    LOL …im unfired. NOW.

  77. Jac Says:

    Comeback, I was just suggesting that IF it was reciprocal. I am sorry if that didn’t come across.

  78. 80's Baby Says:

    and thats not what JAC is suggesting in her orginal post and i think that is what was like firing me up.

    She suggested waiting and supporting and all that bullshyt

    @ Comeback… That was the message that I got too in the beginning

  79. Comeback, you are really wise. I don’t know if I’ve ever told you that…You balance my [young, dumb, full of..ummmm] self out a bit

    I’m thinking about this whole thing. It shouldn’t be complicated at all. It should be simple. Not necessarily easy, but simple.

    We overthink this too much. Usually our hearts are right. A guy will know if a girl is PGF, wife, wifey, GF, jumpoff, fwb or any other acronym or pet name…

    the same way that women know what guys are after….

    I think much of these problems come from people not knowing themselves.

  80. thecomebackgirl Says:

    “@ Comeback… That was the message that I got too in the beginning”

    @ 80s..Jac got me fired up for NOTHING..but i did take away a helpful hint. PBF LOL…

  81. 80's Baby Says:

    We will sell you a dream and not wake you up until we’ve moved on.

    @ junior…. This sums it up right here…..But even when yall moved on yall will try to come back and resell it……. This time I ain’t buyin it….

  82. “that crouch again girl…just slowly this time… LMAO!”

    You freak! LOL

    “She suggested waiting and supporting and all that bullshyt”

    NOTGONNADOIT!@

  83. Anitra Says:

    I have to agree with the guys and say its on the woman more so because we get attached very easy to a fantasy without seeking out the true character. If the man happens to be that guy you want to have a commitment with, there will be no need to force the issue he will simply make it happen.

    We don’t have to stay in situations we just chose to, I flushed my bottle of pixie dust down the toilet

  84. 80's Baby Says:

    @ whyso….Usually our hearts are right.

    You think so???? My heart is one of the reasons I’m in the situation I’m in now…… lol

  85. That’s a handsome pic though Jr. 😉

  86. 80's Baby Says:

    That’s a handsome pic though Jr.

    @ nick… You ain’t never lied about that….lol

  87. thecomebackgirl Says:

    mik i love you but getouttaherewitdatbullshytisyourollinwiththe yayas or not

    goohwtbsiyrwtyon

  88. Anitra Says:

    lmao comeback it sounded good

  89. Jac Says:

    “goohwtbsiyrwtyon”

    I roll w. yayas.

  90. Junior Says:

    @ nicki freak is a frame of mind…I think it, therefore I am!!

    @ whyso, I dont’ know about that one homie, I think our brains are often right, i think its the heart that’ll keep you stuck on someone like band-aids. I know I was in a HORRIBLE situation for 2.5 years, but the heart kept saying, “stick around and work it out”, while my brain was saying, “Nagga are you stupid, she isn’t even that fine to begin with.” True story!

    Jay said it best, “Our time together is our time together, and our time apart is our time apart, so love Jay with your mind ma, and not your heart.”

  91. “@ nicki freak is a frame of mind…I think it, therefore I am!!”

    LMAO.. and que sera, sera and all of that.

    “Our time together is our time together, and our time apart is our time apart, so love Jay with your mind ma, and not your heart.”

    Did he just use my Jay? LOL

  92. 80's Baby Says:

    but the heart kept saying, “stick around and work it out”, while my brain was saying, “Nagga are you stupid!!!

    @ junior… This statement has been validated!! This the truth right here… I’ve told my heart plenty of time let that negro go!!!

  93. Jac Says:

    “Our time together is our time together, and our time apart is our time apart, so love Jay with your mind ma, and not your heart.”

    LOL

  94. Junior Says:

    @ nicki & 80’s baby, watch out now, flattery will get you everywhere…including kids.

    “LMAO.. and que sera, sera and al of that.” I’m just happy I found out “you are what you eat isn’t true…

    Seriously though, when you’re looking for love in all the wrong places…well just nothing good comes of it.

  95. thecomebackgirl Says:

    Junior where are all the wrong places..might was well help the sisters get to 100 comments today LOL

  96. 80's Baby Says:

    “Seriously though, when you’re looking for love in all the wrong places…well just nothing good comes of it.”

    @ Junior….That’s why I ain’t looking….And I’m straight on the kids… ha ha

  97. thecomebackgirl Says:

    Jac..listen here. when one of us wins we all win..it isn’t about competition.

  98. thecomebackgirl Says:

    80s you aint got kids do you?

  99. thecomebackgirl Says:

    is 100 comments the record here. or no?

  100. 80's Baby Says:

    80s you aint got kids do you?

    @ comeback… No kids here…..

  101. thecomebackgirl Says:

    good..80s..well apparently the two web mistresses of SSS are OOO (out of office) and cant answer my dam3n question im cuttin out soon.

  102. Junior Says:

    @ comeback, i’m still trying to find the right place, although I talked about it a few weeks ago.

    http://thereal7.blogspot.com/2008/10/juniors-guide-to-finding-perfect-mate.html

  103. Jac Says:

    “Jac..listen here. when one of us wins we all win..it isn’t about competition.”

    100 comments is indeed the record!

  104. Jac Says:

    I am sorry Comeback…

    I’m here…I have some personal issues I am dealing with….I am trying to do better 🙂

  105. Yah, Junior. I’m turning down the kids. You got guys busy yesterday afternoon on here.

    Sorry comeback, you know my off time is 3:30 pm at work! LOL. I tried to come home and sign onto my computer but it went apeshit and pulled up about 40 Internet Explorers and I did a hard reboot to stop it from pulling up more. Can we say I am just now getting it to work NOW??? (thank you Jesus cause I thought I was going to have to call the Geek Squad)

    Thanks for everyone’s participation on making this post hit the over 100 comments mark.

    Jac, Cuzzo: our hymen was broken. LOL

  106. Jac Says:

    Damn….hymen broken?

    Well…at least it wasn’t painful.

  107. […] about Jac’s “Woman, Lover, Friend, PGF”(PGF=potential girlfriend coined by our faithful reader “No More Heros”) written this […]

  108. I want to thank you for adding a new term to my vocab… lol

    I agree everyone is a PGF, at some point a decision has to be made though. You can’t be sexing on the regular and having sleepovers with a woman you don’t want to call your GF.


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