So I’ve been hearing a lot about this book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Anyways, the premise of the book is that there are five love languages which we all speak in. Ultimately we probably embody one over the others. The above chart represents my results (make sense right?) Anyways as I was watching Real Housewives of Orange County on Saturday night she was complaining that her husband doesn’t show her any of them…NOT ONE! I personally don’t understand how you could be married to someone who doesn’t meet your basic needs?
So since we’re all about making ourselves some list I thought we might examine these five things to see which ones we definitely seek in a mate and why.
Words of Affirmation-Are you the person who lives to hear your co-workers compliment your sense of style? Do you need to hear people constantly compliment your stellar personality? Then this is the love language which you feel most comfortable with. There’s nothing wrong with this at all, in fact, think of how comforting it is to a small child when you give them positive re-enforcement? They absolutely eat it up and you probably do too.
Quality Time-This is more that just being in the same room together. It’s the conversation over dinner. It’s the pre-sleep pillow talk or the coffee in the morning. Spending quality time with your mate creates fond memories. If this is your love language you enjoy teaming up with your mate to kick it or head to the gym…it’s just about hanging and delving into your thoughts.
Receiving Gifts-This one is pretty self-explanatory. People who speak this language enjoy having someone buy them gifts (and it doesn’t have to be big). However, it’s important to note that the greatest gift you can give is your body because many people just enjoy having someone give themselves more freely than anything else.
Acts of Service-This is when you enjoy having someone do nice things for you. You’d like this if you enjoy your mate washing dishes or taking the trash out for you. This might be kinda hard, because you might have to do things that you might not normally do, but in the end it will be worth it.
Physical Touch-This obviously means that one person in the relationship seeks to have physical gratification. They find making love to be one of the biggest bonds that two people on earth can have together. Note that you have to be mindful of which touch the person who speaks this language likes and which they don’t.
So…take the quiz here and let’s discuss which basic things we seek in our mates.
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