You may have seen it – attractive woman, not so attractive man – and thought, what does she see in him? And then, you see him pulling out a wad of cash to pay for the bottles of champagne they are consuming at the club.
Ooooh, now I see.
There are several other scenarios and maybe sometimes the man is not unattractive, maybe he’s old. *insert Real Housewives of the OC couple Gretchen and Jeff here as well*
Where does this stem from? I witnessed it Friday night. These behaviors stemmed from one of my best friends. Every story she tells me about this guy involves money in some way. So, this dude has money…big whoop. Then, I meet him. I met him years before and was like um, ok. They are just friends, right? Currently, she tells me he’s married. Ok. Just friends, right? This guy lives in England. My friend spends the entire holiday from Christmas to New Years, EVERYDAY, with this man (he came back to the US, apparently).
Me: But wait…isn’t he married?
Friend: Yes. But, he doesn’t love her. He told me it was for political reasons.
And that still makes it right? I observe my friend’s behavior around this man in the club, where he is paying for everything (of course). It really baffles me. Could she really like him? They’ve known each other since college, maybe he grew on her, maybe she’s not all about the looks, maybe he’s really packing beneath that frail body. *shrugs* Her mother confirms that it’s the moolah. But, what does her mom know?
I really don’t want to think that one of my best friends is exhibiting golddigger ways. Adding more monkey balls soup to my already churning stomach at the thought, my friends mom tells me that Ms. Goldie tells a friend of her’s that Mr. Goldie’s friend has money. The friends’ reply, Ooh, I wanna meet him. *barf* Neither of these guys are attractive.
What do I say when I’m introduced to Mr. Goldie at the club?
*shakes hand* Congratulations. I heard you got married.
*fits of laughter from Mr. and Ms. Goldie*
Now, do I talk to my friend about what I’m seeing or let her live her life? Our friends are supposed to tell us when we are getting played, should they also speak up when we are being trifling? Some matters are easily carried out in the head. You don’t want to strain a friendship because you want to stand your ground while the other person wants to play.