When I think of the ulitmate cheater, I think of Kobe Bryant. There’s no excuse for cheating, one can ever say anything to convince me of it. If you are not happy, simply leave. Or do I live in a fantasy world?
At any rate, I listen to what men have to say about cheating, I read the books. I am intrigued with the male pscyche. I have my ideal relationship, but I’m not naive.
There is a common misconception in society nowadays that men cheat … when this is far from the truth. Men never have and probably never will cheat. We are genetically coded to sleep around … so therefore we aren’t cheating … we are just helping to continue human evolution and ensuring the survival of our species.
Now that I have managed to run off the prudes and those easily offended … let me first say that was a joke … and any n***a who tells you that mess is full of sh**.
I don’t know why men cheat to be honest. I wanted to just say “new p***y” and just leave it at that … but a lot of times its old p***s that causes trouble. This question should be why do people cheat … because I think the concept that men cheat more than women is a common misconception that isn’t true … but I digress.
The simplest and most common reason I think men cheat is … “It’s hard for a man to turn down p***y”. Most men aren’t offered sex. I think most guys are blatantly approached for just sex without putting in any effort. At minimum … he first approached the girl and got the number. When sex comes easy … I mean really easy … it’s like finding $20 on the ground … you know you should go turn it in somewhere … but your probably going to take it and run and count your luck.
But … I will admit … as someone who is a chronic non-cheater and big on monogamy (didn’t say relationships … but dipping in only one well and fighting this ass multitasking nonsense) … I am not the best person to speak on it. My friends are “good guys” and cheating is foreign to me … so my simple answer may not explain all … or even most … but … let it be one more opinion to add to the pot.
One good way to get a dude to slide off is to be one way before you officially start dating, and then become complacent and lazy once yall are official. For instance, at the beginning of ish you’re going to the gym, eatin healthy, and taking care of your appearance. After some time dating, shorty gets complacent and unattractive. Another chick will catch you slippin’ and then he’ll be slippin’ sumthin somewhere else…even if he still loves the person you are.
Another good way to get a dude to dive into another sea of love is to not take interest in those things that he takes pride in. If he plays in a basketball league and you never go to his games but another “friend” does, well…we know where this one is going. First it’s her going to his game, then them going to an NBA/college game, then she runs a little game, then dude is in bed with her playin a little 1 on 1.
Other dudes just cheat cuz they don’t know how to handle commitment. They may feel obligated to be in the relationship, when they know they shouldn’t be. That is something that I will never fully understand. Men really can be dumb sometimes!
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