I’m just gonna preface and say I hate the word “hater.” For me, it’s overuse is up there with the word “swag.” I try not to use either, but for today, I’ll make an exception. 😉
The Urban Dictionary defines “hater” a few ways, one of them:
A label applied to people who are more negative than positive when discussing another person. It most commonly refers to individuals whose negativity is so extreme that it is all-consuming. However, there are various levels and forms of being a hater, ranging from completely dismissing any positive traits or actions, to merely painting a less than flattering picture by using words with negative connotations. Hating is often attributed to jealousy, but just as often, it seems to stem from some other source.
Let’s get something straight, telling the honest truth is not hating. Take this conversation:
Eva: Girl, how does this dress look on me?
Chanel: Ummm, it’s looking a little tight. You might want to go up a size.
Eva: *scrunches nose* I’on know what you talking about, I look good. Hate much?
Lesson to be learned: If you can’t handle the truth, don’t ask for it. But I digress.
There are so many forms of hating… from folks hating on your “swag” to your success to your relationships. I don’t subscribe to the “if people aren’t hating, then you aren’t doing it big” or whatev. To me, that insinuates that hating is okay. Haters need healing and maybe a self esteem class.
That being said, what are your thoughts on haters? How do you deal with them?