I recently read (yes, I actually read something) an article in Cosmo about a young women who has a Huntington’s disease. She’s pretty much “normal” and healthy now but as the disease takes it’s course she will lose her mental abilities and have behavioral problems. I can’t remember exactly when she disclosed this to her current boyfriend of one year but it leaves him with the question of whether or not he wants to go through that with her.
When do you disclose that you have an illness to someone you are dating – before or after you become exclusive? If you are the person receiving the news, what would you do? Do you feel morally obligated to stay with the person because you feel sorry for them? If you are exclusive, does the love surpass the inevitable truth that you may have to take care of them, or that they may die early on? There are several questions that go through my mind coming from both ends of the spectrum.
In the irony of it all, I’ve met a man who within our second conversation told me he had epilepsy. He takes medication and experiences the occasional seizure. He told me that seizures eat away your brain a little with every episode so, he keeps a journal and writes everything down so he can remember. I’m smitten and though he does not wear his disease on his sleeve (he mentioned it, we talked about it, and that’s that), I can’t help but think about this.