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Decisions, Decisions, Decisions February 24, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — FlawedBeauty @ 2:19 am

As I was sitting in church on yesterday morning I was listening to the scripture which at the moment is not pertinent (though the Word is always important).  Moving right along…one of the points made was that we as people (especially young people) do not know how to commit.

That’s right I said it.

Let’s examine this…we know how to make the decision to be with someone but do we understand what that really entails?  This means…that when he’s living all up in Detroit and GM is like get your ish and be out, you do not complain and throw a fit.  You simply have your man’s back.  Men, this means that when she got your kids and has a rough day at work you don’t go out with the boys…you handle the house and let her decompress.  See in all this you’ve made a decision to be committed…nothing more and nothing less.

Let’s clarify a thing or two though…sometimes…one person chooses to make the decision for both of you.  This is a case where the representative was out-in other words you’ve been bamboozled.  So…when the crap hits the fan…they forget to put on the mask and you see the real person. What do you do when this happens?  Yesterday, Nic told us when to hold ’em and when to fold ’em…but how exactly how do you know whether it’s time to make a decision?  Time to commit?  And exactly what are the circumstances that will cause you to throw the deuces on your relationship?  What are things we as men and women are willing to do to keep our partners happy and sane?

Let’s hear it.

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13 Responses to “Decisions, Decisions, Decisions”

  1. Great link up doll. I’m thinking it’s too much when you can no longer breathe without feeling pressure and the load is too heavy. When the voice of that person makes your stomach hurt (and not with butterflies). Or when God tells you it’s time to go… and by God, I mean that inner voice that exists in us that some of us ignore.

  2. Jada Says:

    Our generation has greatly lost the sense and meaning of commitment that it took to keep folks together and households running beautifully…and since we’ve lost so much of it I REALLY FEAR for the next generation. Commitment should be mutually exclusive. Meaning this is NOT an individual decision, either you’re both in or you’re both out.

    But if you’re gonna be in then it’s about making SACRIFICES for the good of the other person and the unit as a whole. Selfishness needs to be thrown out the window.

  3. thecomebackgirl Says:

    “What are things we as men and women are willing to do to keep our partners happy and sane?

    Well…I think this sort of goes back choosing well serioously. You honestly can’t get mad at a man when life happens..cause it WILL invariably happen to you too.. Moreover YOU CAN”T EVEN GET MAD AT HOW HE HANDLES SAID SITUATION..or any for that matter. Why because through the dating/mating process, he’s shown you what he was made of. You either paid attention. You admired. Or you choose to see something else with the your big d!ick rose colored glasses.

  4. “Or you choose to see something else with the your big d!ick rose colored glasses.”

    This is thee truth!

  5. morning all..long gone are the days of for better or for worse. I feel as though there shouldn’t be anything we can’t get through with God’s help. We are designed to be each others help mates not hinderance. The sooner we actualize that the sooner people can get back to loving and caring for each other the way God intended.

  6. Jada Says:

    Where is Jac?

  7. Jada, prolly still sleeping.

    @akua: “The sooner we actualize that the sooner people can get back to loving and caring for each other the way God intended.”

    Exactly!

  8. Jaci Says:

    @Nic-I think what you said is right on point. When God tells you it has become too much-it’s too much…because we all know what it do and what it don’t (hey Hol) when God says peace out.

    @Ms. Jada-“Our generation has greatly lost the sense and meaning of commitment that it took to keep folks together and households running beautifully…and since we’ve lost so much of it I REALLY FEAR for the next
    generation.”

    WE really have got to work on this. I know I am. I might have to write a follow-up to some ways that we can get this done. Or maybe a page-call it a comprehensive guide.

    @CBG-Our generation is wearing those glasses something fierce and we need to get away from that.

    Akua-Right-we need to pay attention to the vision that he was for us and ask him to please order our steps according to his word.

    And yes, I was still sleeping I was up extra long last night-I was at home but not sleeping. More on what I was doing will follow on flawed.

  9. thecomebackgirl Says:

    “More on what I was doing will follow on flawed”

    OH LAWD..i was wondering what you were doing.

  10. Jaci Says:

    CBG-LOL–this morning I was sleeping…I have not been doing a lot of that…but I have some other stuff going on that I am working on…hence I am never d@mn @ the house…I’m bout to leave in a minute, but I am going to come back!

  11. Peyso Says:

    I think in general, the lack of committing is not an issue. However, it is in a relationship. We are in a society where people dont committ to anything and that has benefited us for years. Gone are the days where the first company that you work for is often the company that you retire from. People are doing more traveling and switching of majors these days. However, ppl try to apply these same principles to their relationships. I think that if you’re really in a relationship, there are very few “I”s and a lot of “We”s. When you do what is best for “We”, you should stay out of trouble.

  12. Britt Says:

    Co-signing The Comeback girl. She has spoken.

  13. Jada Says:

    That’s an awesome observation Peyso! ^5’s you for that!


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