Why are there still color issues in the black community in 2009? This is one of the very few issues that irritates me to no end.
A few weeks ago, Panama over at Very Smart Brothas, wrote a post about “The Mirror” which got under the skin of some of the commenters- some of them were upset because his top picks had light skin. I don’t understand why people would pick something like this out to complain about. He!!, I didn’t even notice until someone pointed it out.
I feel pretty good that Panama didn’t specifically pick out light skin girls to make his top 3, they just happened to be his TOP 3; it’s kinda like how I keep trying to incorporate color into my wardrobe, but somehow I always end up buying items in black or gray.
I am on the sunnier side of yellow and have heard jokes about it my entire life. To this day, it still pisses me off. One of my best friends says things in jest, like, “she acts light skin,” or “You know I don’t like light skin girls.” Can someone tell me what the effe that means?
And why is there a double standard? People can refer to me as “high yellow,” “red,” etc., which are all unflattering names, but let me call my darker counterparts something like “black” or “darkie,” and a riot will be sure to break out.
I was listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show radio date last week and one of the co- hosts asked the male competitor what his best feature was. He answered, “my complexion.” It seemed to me that the co host put a lil’ extra base in his/her voice when asking, “And what complexion is that?” When he replied about having smooth dark skin, it seemed like the tension eased up. He was almost applauded for it. It got me thinking- what if he would have said something about being a light brotha? I don’t think he would have received the same congratulatory remarks!
Secondly, every one has their preferences. I prefer a dark chocolate man. I have heard men say they will only date light skin women. Now, I won’t even date a man who says this- It makes me feel like the only reason I am in the running is because of my color. This comment also bothers me because black women are so beautiful, and we come in so many different shades. How can a person discount a great woman, just because she is not on the lighter side of the spectrum? But on the other hand, am I doing the same thing when I say I prefer darker man?
If it was up to me, I’d have been born a dark brown girl, but God saw fit to make me who I am, and it’s the same for everyone- so why are we still making an issue of it?
I know I put a few questions up in through this post, but what do you think? Is this issue prevalent in the black community still or am I extra sensitive? How do you feel about color preferences? Anything additional to add regarding this?