If you don’t know about Lauren London as New New, jump onto a pitchfork allow me to educate you. New New was her character name in ATL (the movie has nothing to do with this post).
I’m only using the name metaphorically- for a new relationship (did I just use that word right?)
Moving right along-
In a relationship, it’s very important to have communication. And one of the important components of good communication is being able to be on the same wavelengths- having an understanding.
I don’t want to use the word “rules” but I can’t think of a better one, so just take this with a grain of salt. But anyway, it is important to set rules in the beginning… and not me merely dictating. I need my man to also let me know what is or is not acceptable to him. But since I’m so fabulous, he won’t need many for me. Kidding!
One of the things that should probably be discussed is male/ female friends or friendships with exes. Now, I’m a pretty level headed chick (about 60% of the time. lol) so if my man has female friends from the past, I’m understanding of that. Disclaimer: This depends on the “friend.” You can tell when a woman is after your man. But I feel no need for my man to be making new female friends. He will not be going to lunches with this broad or taking her for long or short walks in the park. They will not go for ice cream. I keep my cool in public, but behind closed doors, I will blow up like an atomic bomb. Sweetie, you don’t want it. Trust me.
I think the same can be said about exes- except the part about new ones, I guess you can’t have those. I’m just saying, -for me, it depends on the ex. I have an ex that I’m kinda friends with who has actually gotten better. Since I told him that I am no longer single, he’s let go of those sexual innuendos- he’s a way better friend. My man is friends with an ex and it seems like they were a really tight couple at once and I’m okay with that. BUT. Some exes have to be left in the past… for example, those break up to make up back up plans. Some of you guys have them (since Sunny is the vision an angel, she never has)– those that you keep on the back burner, just in case. When entering a relationship, one that you are truly trying to make work, THOSE MUST GO.
Let’s see… what else?????
I’m drawing a blank. I haven’t been in a real relationship since I was 20 years old (there were plenty of “no titles”) so I am not sure about what other ground rules we should be setting.
I know you guys have some rules to add. What say you?
UPDATE: Britt helped a sista out. lol.. Please replace the word “rules” with “boundaries.” See??? This is why I heart you guys.