Arguments – many of us hate to have them with our significant others while others provoke them. And, I’m not talking about discussions where you simply don’t agree, potato/potahto type stuff. I’m talking about someone is pissed the hell off and might go off the deep end at any moment.
I know with my temperament, I NEED to take a moment to think before I say something I will regret. In some cases I may need to take a few days and gather my thoughts. By taking more than 24 hours, you may run the risk of not remembering what you were mad about or the other person may not remember what it is that they did to make you upset (which in turn may lead to further upset because it’s soooo important to you, yet they are clueless).
If you upset your SO and they don’t want to talk about it when you do…give them that…let them take their time and don’t push the issue. This logic is based on my temper of course. For example, you shouldn’t tell me how I should or should not feel…act or should not act – that pisses me off.
What’s your argument style in regards to your significant other? DO you buy into the not going to bed angry (if you’re going to bed with the person that night)? DO you take time? DO you not say anything at all then just blow up one day out the blue?
Aside from what you actually do…what’s the most ideal…the most healthy for the relationship?