Wikipedia defines dating as, “any social activity undertaken by, typically, two people with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as their partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. The word refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity. Traditional dating activities include entertainment or a meal.”
I can stand behind this definition- it was the exact reason I dated. If I wasn’t feeling the man, or able to put him in the “prospect” category, I wasn’t sharing his company- simple as that. I always believed (read: HOPED) that both parties would be on the same accord.
Some people date for other reasons- women will go out on a date because, “hey it’s a free meal,” “It’s better than being alone,” or “I’ve got nothing better to do.” If you are dating for any of these reasons, you, my friend are a USER (and karma is a b#*ch). If you feel this way, you should probably get a job and some self esteem.
Men- you didn’t get off easy. Don’t use dating as a down payment on the poon. You should not be taking a woman out, wining and dining her, and expect her to spread the legs later on that night. If you do, you might be better just bypassing the date and soliciting a lady of the evening instead. I think you should also expect to pay on the date.
Yes, I said it. *** And I know the men will shoot me for this. *** But I think a man paying is chivalrous and it makes me feel secure, soft and pink. I’m not saying we have to be eating at Mr. Chows and breaking your wallet, but initially, I expect you to pay. At some point, I will shell out but I just need you to be prepared … don’t ask me out if you don’t have it (I had a man ask me if I was paying next time when I only ate a $3 bowl of SOUP!!!! lol)
As I said, dates don’t have to be uber expensive. Just be creative (and mind you, this may differ from woman to woman). For me, dinner or movies is really not what I want to do when we are first dating- it’s so regular. We can do something like meeting at a restaurant for dessert (because I am addicted to sweets), or Starbucks for a latte. We could grab an ice cream cone while walking around the Waterfront. I treat dating as an informal interview- I’m trying to collect evidence, which is why we need to be talking.
What say you?