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This vs That July 7, 2009

Filed under: Single Sisters On... — cuzzo @ 11:25 pm
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They look like your average soccer moms, but they don’t act like them!

They’re buying those juice boxes with paychecks from their X-rated careers! Tyra talks to moms who support their families by working in adult entertainment. Get the dish from these unapologetic moms who don’t see anything wrong with their sexy careers — and them from their upset daughters who think their mother’s careers are having a negative impact on their lives.

The above is taken from the Tyra Show website. From what I can recall in seeing this episode, Tyra had two mother-daughter interviews. The mom pictured above was/is a stripper and her daughter hates it. The first mom she interviewed was pretty much a soccer mom by day and dominatrix by night…or in her spare time. Her kids did not know what she did except her eldest daughter who pretty much did not seem to have a problem with it and respected her moms decision UNTIL Tyra showed a video of a the mom “working”. (I did not think she should have done that…it’s one thing to “think” you know what she was doing and another to see it panned out in front of a live audience…or at all.)

As far as what are considered “sex industry” jobs, I did not see her “job” as being all that bad. If I were her daughter, I wouldn’t want to hear about it but I think it is better than being a prostitute or a stripper. Maybe because I understand dominatrix a little better than the audience members who were oohing and ahhing. It’s acting without the sex or the camera’s. It’s more private than stripping and less demeaning than prostitution. The only sexy thing about it are the outfits, really.

Now, I’m going to assume nobody wants their momma in any parts of the sex industry 😉 But, what are your thoughts of the stated situations? Dominatrix versus Stripper versus Prostitute versus Porn  Star…and not even as something you would/wouldn’t want your momma doing….but in general do you see one as better than the other?

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38 Responses to “This vs That”

  1. thecomebackgirl Says:

    “It’s more private than stripping and less demeaning than prostitution.”

    really now??

  2. I’m not cool with my mama doing NONE of them. Dominatrix isn’t as bad as a stripper which isn’t as bad as prostitution, IMHO, but still…. mama, NO!

  3. thecomebackgirl Says:

    I just can’t get the visual..you have to remember some of us who are in our late 20s/ early 30s have parents in their late 50s early 60s…and i just can’t get the visual. I don’t know if I can even picture a 50/60 year old stripper/call girl/ escort/ dominatrix…

    So I’ll take it back to maybe when I was 10….I mean…i dunno, would I even know unless someone went and told me your momma is a hooker or a dominatrix??

    now im confused..i need coffee.

  4. cuzzo Says:

    I take it you don’t agree CBG.

    A dominatrix has to advertise herself somehow but I think it’s more private than stripping because if you work at a strip club you don’t know what type of clientele you will be getting. Anyone can show up. And it might be someone you know or that knows you or your family.

    And prostitution can be the same thing…if you are pimping yourself on the corner, you don’t know who will see you. If you are a part of an escort service, I don’t think you can tell your boss that you can’t take a call because it’s someone you know. Or maybe the guy is unattractive or weird…you have to deal with them (and sleep with them, bleh) regardless.

    A dominatrix has her clientele and she calls the shots. No sex and nothing she doesn’t want to do. She’s there to control the man…if anything he is the one who is being demeaned (and in a private setting).

  5. cuzzo Says:

    No you wouldn’t know. The only people who could/would tell you would be your friends. Deacon Fry was not supposed to be there anyway, so you wouldn’t hear it from him.

    Aside from it being YOUR actual mom, cause like I said, no one would knowingly want this, what do you think of moms doing this type of work in general? Can you live a normal life by day? Would it eventually catch up to the family?

  6. thecomebackgirl Says:

    “I take it you don’t agree CBG.”

    I was just saying “really now”…because you was droppin science like you’ve had the conversation before…and you were on the side of the expert.

    not to get all in your business..but are you considering a career change?

  7. thecomebackgirl Says:

    “what do you think of moms doing this type of work in general? Can you live a normal life by day? Would it eventually catch up to the family?”

    My cousin whose 4 years older was a stripper..but she tried to “legitimize” herself as a “private dancer” with a body guard. And she had kids. I dunno over time it just seemed who she was. She’d get dressed, pack her little (change clothes suitcase) and she’d be gone.

    I don’t know. Personally, I’m thinking there has to be a better way. These jobs don’t really have long term potential. And the top right lady, tho very attractive, looks a little “long in the tooth”…

  8. “I don’t know. Personally, I’m thinking there has to be a better way”

    That’s what I’d be thinking… I just wouldn’t want someone looking at a mama the same way that they look at the women in these positions, ALSO, the kid may be teased all kind of ways.

  9. K Even Says:

    its a recession.. gotta do what u gotta do.. (joke) hehehe…

    the porn star would be the only acceptable offense… in general..

  10. cuzzo Says:

    @CBG

    “I was just saying “really now”…because you was droppin science like you’ve had the conversation before…and you were on the side of the expert.

    not to get all in your business..but are you considering a career change?”

    All, I’m dropping are opinions…without constantly saying “in my opinion”…no career change here.

    @K Even – the porn star is acceptable??? I see it as the most offensive because AIRYBODY can just pick up a vid and see their momma, sister, daughter, neice, aunt etc, having sex 😦 Why do you think it’s the most acceptable?

  11. peyso Says:

    #1) I think a child should have no say in the way their parent puts food on the table. If you have a problem get the hell out.

    Obviously, I wouldnt want my momma doing not near one of those but if I had to choose, I would say dominatrix. Yea, they dress up and perform semi-sexual acts but they rarely actually have sex with their clients and they are in complete control of it. I think there are levels to those four professions. Dominatrix, stripper, porn star, prostitute, in that order of course.

  12. cuzzo Says:

    “I think a child should have no say in the way their parent puts food on the table. If you have a problem get the hell out. ”

    @Peyso

    I agree to a certain extent. I think when the profession can harm the child, then a say-so should be said. For example, in the news recently there was a prostitute mom who turned tricks in a motel while she kept her son in the bathroom (or something like that, anyway he was in the same surroundings as the activity) And, for one, the child shouldn’t know what the parent is doing if they are in these professions.

  13. peyso Says:

    @cuzzo

    I still dont think the child should have any right. That’s the state’s role, the role of the family, the role of anyone else but the child. To me, it’s like a chick dating a drug dealer. She’s living the life of luxury but as a problem with how the money is coming in. Leave or dont reap the benefits or you can just be quiet and accept the cash.

  14. “:I think when the profession can harm the child, then a say-so should be said. ”

    I agree with you.

  15. peyso Says:

    @ cuzzo & @ Nicki – You gonna let a 16yo have a say so in what they determine could harm them? I’m sorry but no 16yo child of mine is telling me what profession I can and cannot work. Ungrateful runt lol

  16. cuzzo Says:

    @Peyso

    That 16 yo may not say anything to their parent because well, it’s your parent…but they will act out in some manner. And, since we like to talk in hypotheticals around here…in the worst case scenario if that prostitute mom turns tricks in the household and the john doesn’t want to pay and instead decides to rob her, pistol whip her, turn the gun on the child…said child can’t say…mom I’m scared and I don’t want you to do this anymore?

  17. J Money Says:

    I think all three professions put the woman in a situation where she is not in control. You say being a dominatrix is in control but at some point he is not tied up or whatever and at some point he has to be untied. Then who is in control? But all the professions you run the risk of someone knowing and it getting back to your kids because no one is going out of town to do these things so the clients are local. That increases the chance of the word spreading. They are all on the same level to me just different circumstances under which you could have the curtain pulled open on you!!

  18. peyso Says:

    @ cuzzo – #1) it should be generally understood that a parent will not do anything to put their child in harm’s way.
    #2) should barak step down if his kids dont want him to be president anymore?
    #3) the above women aint tricking at home
    #4) “mom I’m scared and I don’t want you to do this anymore?” – Move out

  19. K Even Says:

    @cuzzo: the porn star is acceptable???

    i assume it is cleaner than the other side jobs which involve the sanctity of procreation..

  20. “That 16 yo may not say anything to their parent because well, it’s your parent…but they will act out in some manner. And, since we like to talk in hypotheticals around here…in the worst case scenario if that prostitute mom turns tricks in the household and the john doesn’t want to pay and instead decides to rob her, pistol whip her, turn the gun on the child…said child can’t say…mom I’m scared and I don’t want you to do this anymore?”

    Exactly… and what if the child is getting made fun of at school bc “Daddy has movies and I saw you mommy’s ta-tas” and yes, while every child has been made fun of, every child cannot handle it.

  21. “#2) should barak step down if his kids dont want him to be president anymore?”

    LOL. Peyso, how u gonna equate the President to a mama using her body for money?

  22. Jaci Says:

    You say being a dominatrix is in control but at some point he is not tied up or whatever and at some point he has to be untied. Then who is in control?

    Welp…J Moolah has got a point here. I think any situation where a woman is a porn star, stripper, etc. etc. can land her in a place she doesn’t really wanna be..including erotic massage therapist.

    i assume it is cleaner than the other side jobs which involve the sanctity of procreation..

    Well…I would think that none of this acts leave “the act” sanctified…procreation or no…I mean …smdh @ the whole thought..period..no matter the age

  23. peyso Says:

    @ Nicki – You gonna get made fun of at school regardless of what your parent does. But if its between your child getting made fun of and your child having a roof over his head and some food on his plate, what should you choose?

    “LOL. Peyso, how u gonna equate the President to a mama using her body for money?” – Lol, a bit of a stretch but my argument is based on the theory behind rule utilitarianism, where we based the morality on general practice rather than on specific acts

  24. peyso Says:

    @ Jac and J Money – Based on that reasoning, a women should never work in any position where she will be alone with a man for fear that she may lose control. Bye bye, nurses and teachers. A step back for feminisms

  25. Jaci Says:

    @Peyso

    Those professions don’t have questionable elements…you’re a man and a woman turns you on that you’re paying for her services there’s some jackarses somewhere that are gonna be like I paid, I want P now give it.

  26. ” You gonna get made fun of at school regardless of what your parent does. But if its between your child getting made fun of and your child having a roof over his head and some food on his plate, what should you choose?”

    A fast food restaurant is always hiring SOMWHERE.. or a grocery store.

  27. peyso Says:

    @ Jac – people who pay for dominatrix, pay to be dominated not to smash. That’s the nature of the field. I’m willing to bet that nurses deal with more BS than dominatrixes (what the hell is the plural?)

    @ Nicki – Now, fast food, w/ the $2 min wage and black folk that dont tip pays like stripping? GTFOWTBS

  28. “@ Nicki – Now, fast food, w/ the $2 min wage and black folk that dont tip pays like stripping? GTFOWTBS”

    U GTFOHWTBS… all strippers don’t get paid high end money… all fast food workers don’t get $2.

    And furthermore GTFOHWTBS for equating a presidents job to a stripper, etc. That makes no sense.

  29. Jaci Says:

    @Nicki

    Move to the left corner…

    @Peyso

    Move to the right corner

  30. peyso Says:

    @ Nicki – NO U, u GTFOHWTBS. I would argue that low end stripper make more than low end fast food workers. I stand corrected, fast food workers dont get $2. The average salary for a manager is $35K. (http://www.payscale.com/research/US/Industry=Fast_Food_Restaurant(s)/Salary) A MANAGER IS MAKING $35K!!!! The average salary for a stripper who works part time is $33K. (http://www.simplyhired.com/a/salary/search/q-Stripper)

  31. Peyso I am done with this conversation right now. I took personal insult to your statement telling me to GTFO… It was quite disrespectful so I stepped out of my usual and got just as nasty.

    We use the phrase all the time, but U WILL NOT say it to me directly. That’s all i have to say.

  32. peyso Says:

    @ Nicki – My sincerest apologies. You apparently have taken it more seriously than I have. No disrespect meant in any shape or form

  33. cuzzo Says:

    I can’t go away for 2 hours (to take my driving lessons…yippee)!

    Wait a minute a fast food manager is making $35K??? Welcome to McDonalds…may I take your order?

    Not that I strive to be making $35K but for real for real you end up more on top than a richer person with all the benefits you get from the government based on that household income and having seeds. See it as a person making $35 w/o seeds (children) will be struggling paying out of pocket for everything you can imagine. Now a person with that income with a couple seeds would be getting free healthcare…free food…free money…tax breaks…in PA you can pay a percentage of daycare (if anything)….a percentage of your gas and electric bills…the list goes on.

    (yes, this was a tangent)

  34. cuzzo Says:

    “i assume it is cleaner than the other side jobs which involve the sanctity of procreation..”

    @K Even – It’s supposed to be…but there are cases of porn stars contracting and spreading AIDS.

    “But all the professions you run the risk of someone knowing and it getting back to your kids because no one is going out of town to do these things so the clients are local.”

    @ J Money – I think there is less of a risk if any at all with the dom (of the town finding out). I doubt anyone will admit they pay someone to make them dress in a diaper while they polish toenails….these are usually rich and powerful men that go to these dom’s…
    and NO I’m not thinking of this as a career. I just felt for the woman that did this and Tyra was just trying to belittle her, all the while saying oh, im not judging, im just trying to understand. Tyra really gets on my nerves with that…now she needs to GTFOHWTBS (did i type that correct)

    “A fast food restaurant is always hiring SOMWHERE.. or a grocery store.”
    @Nicki – It’s a catch 22 because the mom will be busting her hump, probably at 2 fast food places (or several hours at one) hardly see her kids or be too tired to give the love and affection needed, or do the little things. The logic behind the sex (or sexy) industry job for these women is that it’s easy money.

  35. thecomebackgirl Says:

    “(to take my driving lessons…yippee)! ”

    @ Cuzzo..when you gonna be done with that..don’t tell nobody you can’t drive, south of Trenton NJ.

  36. cuzzo Says:

    @CBG – this was really my first official lesson…not me riding around with my cousin and n’em. I’m going to take my test either this Friday or next. Jesus be an enclosed course 🙂

  37. Bamer15 Says:

    I learned some new acronyms from this blog.. lol.

  38. Cynthia Says:

    Wow, looks can be so deceiving! Peyso, good job apologizing, I will beat you up in deffense of my girl Nicki!


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