*Today’s post comes from Danielle at “It’s So Nice to Be Nice”. Enjoy!
I received a forwarded email recently and thought to share the last couple of lines.
“Anger and Love have no limits; choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely life…..Things are to be used and people are to be loved. But, the problem in today’s world is that, people are used and things are loved. “
The last line struck a cord with me and made me think about some of my past relationships, but I couldn’t help but disagree with the statement. See, I’ve always believed that we were all created to grow, contribute, and flourish. For this reason, I have intentionally set out to form relationships with people for my own personal gain….in hopes of getting introduced to someone else, a new perspective, a new hobby, a recommendation letter, or an opportunity for a new job.
Honestly, I just believe in exchange. I believe that I’m always getting something from the people I invite in my life or who arrive through happenstance.
It could be positive or negative. Their energy might inspire, their words of wisdom may provide insight, their experience could eliminate missteps, and their relationships could provide opportunities for growth and advancement. In the same way, contact may spark anger, be a hindrance, stunt emotional growth, or lead to inappropriate behavior.
Either way, relationships lead to change, education, and opportunities….good or bad, substantial or limited, they always lead to something.
And since this is true, what’s wrong with looking to people for opportunities that will spark growth and renewal? What’s wrong with intentionally seeking out relationships that add fuel to our lives and careers.
This doesn’t mean I have my hand open, stretched out, only looking to receive. On the contrary, I have committed my life to helping others and giving because I believe in service and have found these experiences to be the most enriching and life-changing.
So I seek them out. I look for opportunities to help, inspire, and teach. And I never think of these people or organizations as using me or manipulating me because I offered help. I signed up, instructed, listened, and gave them permission to utilize my talents, assets, knowledge and/or expertise.
So, they’re not using me without my permission, knowledge, and participation. Instead, I’m actively making a choice to give to others and to receive something from those who have something to share with me.
What do you think of the last lines in the email? Do you intentionally use people?
“‘It’s So Nice to Be Nice’ was created to remind people of the importance of sharing, connecting, and treating others well, even in a tough economy, and even when you don’t feel inpired . A smile, an authentic hello, friendly wave, or sincere compliment can do much to brighten someone’s day. Yes, they’re small, but these are important gestures that may lighten the load or lift the spirit of many you meet.
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