…regardless of how she pisses me off.
My best friend defended her Master’s this past Thursday. I am SO proud of her. That’s my girl. But wait, that’s not all she does that I am in awe of..she is the baby of 3 children (by 10 years) and is consistently making sense and holding it down no matter how tired she is. She’s been in the same relationship (really puttin in work) for the past five years. She and her Mama are thisclose.
You go girl!
The only thing I can tell my sister-friend is keep pushing.
And this is yet another thing that’s difficult for Black women in America. That’s right we have a habit of thinking and saying the following things:
“I’ll just take her man”
“Who does she think she is?”
But, what we aren’t seeing is how are her struggles? Could I walk a mile in her shoes? Or even, go girl do the d@mn thing. We already know that we here at Single Sisters have a zero hater policy, but you know what it’s still happening…
And we should stop it. It’s not necessary. This is 2009…and they hating really needs to stop…
And just in case you are unsure of how to carry this out let’s look at two Black women who are successful in their sister-girl relationships:
1. Michelle Obama-I’m still in awe of her and I know a little of her exist in a lot of us. We’ve just got to know how to bring this out. I think a part of what makes her such a remarkable sister-friend is her down home charm, indomitable spirit and her overt warmth. Even her friends from before she married Barack acknowledge that she’s taken them every step of the way with her on her journey..even holding roundtable discussions about the campaign..I’m also super sure that she and Dr. Biden have glasses of wine and dessert to compare notes and discuss…Can’t beat that kinda friendship!
2. Oprah Wynfrey-Not one of us would know Gayle King without Oprah Wyfrey..every time Oprah’s star rises so does Gayle…this sister-friend also pulls her friend right along with her and I cannot be mad at them for this. And you know what makes it even cooler? Oprah took Gayle to the White House to meet Michelle! You’ve got to love it…
So what are your sister-friend rituals? Do they keep you grounded? Comfort you? What element do they add to your life? And if there’s anything you’ve ever wanted to tell them shoot for it!
And since I don’t wanna leave the men out…what are you and your boys up to? Are they your wing men? Can you really count on them and why do you feel ya’ll make friends better than we do?!