My S.O inspired this post unknowingly- as I was walking past his bag, I saw Letters to A Young Brother by Hill Harper peeking out.
We’ve all had quite a few life experiences- good and bad. And I’m sure at one time or another, we’ve all used the phrase, “if I knew then what I know now…” What sucks is- you can’t turn back time. On the other hand, you can teach a young person not to make the same mistakes you did (Or TO make them!).
If there were three pieces of advices that you could say to the younger generation, what would they be?
1. Attract boys with your brains, not your body: I was a brainiac child, but back then, I felt like I was missing out on something. The hotter girls had so much fun!!! I wanted to go out on dates and hang out at all times of the night too- but my parents kept my head in the books. I remember my daddy going off on me because I brought a “B” home from school (Dude- are you serious????)
These days, I understand the value of education (although I’m still working on my first degree) and can appreciate everything they did. A lot of my counterparts are unmarried with children by multiple men, or just not doing ANYTHING. (Not that my choice made me any better than them but no one PLANS to be a single mother.)
2. Participate!: I was involved in a couple of clubs and organizations in school- track, Pep Club, Beta Club… things like that… but I never did a whole lot. And I know it was because I was so shy. I was a Governor’s Scholar (alternate), which was a very special award that you were nominated for.
Over the summer, these students got to spend a few weeks at a college and prepare for freshman year. In turn, your entire four year college degree was paid for. Because I was an alternate, if one of the five or so chosen ones backed out, I was able to go. Guess what????? Someone did!!!! But I was too shy to go, so I screwed up a great opportunity.
In the end, I did end up going to a four year college but I stayed in my room whenever I was not in class. I wish I would have socialized more and joined some clubs. I missed the entire college experience.
3. Be charming, be a lady: It disturbs me HIGHLY to see the attitude in the actions and on the faces of so many of our young women. Your grandma wasn’t lying when she said you could attract more flies with honey than vinegar. This doesn’t only apply to how you deal with the opposite sex, smiling and being approachable helps you in all aspects of your life. I believe because I was so friendly, I received more help from my teachers and school administration. Whenever I needed academic advice or a letter of recommendation, they were always happy to oblige.
Your turn- What do you have to share?