A lot of people may agree that “an ex is an ex for a reason”. But, it’s so easy to get caught up in the hype, especially when the new man is acting up. Me, I’ve held onto exes. I may have had 2 dumb and ugly breakups in my dating years. So, those exes got the axe with no looking back. One happens to be my son’s father so, we kinda have to communicate from time to time. Buuuut, in my pot-calling-the-kettle-blackness, I am quick to tell another woman to cut her ex when she’s in a good relationship.
I mean that ex that you might have shared (and continue to share) everything with. The one you call when you act up and need advice. I only occasionally shoot the breeze with 2 exes.
I went out with one of my girlfriends this weekend and she was looking very chummy with an ex of hers that was at the party – mind you she has a man, and from what I can tell they have a solid relationship (they are ALWAYS on the phone…they were talking right before we went in the place). But, by the end of the night, she had some alone time with the ex – I don’t want it to sound like something it’s not so what I mean is, he literally asked me to walk away so he could talk to her (JUST TALK). They talked for like a minute. So, I asked her, what was that about? (not knowing prior that they used to date BUT knowing that she’s very much in a relationship and this other guys knows this as well). She tells me the story of what happened between them and now he wants that old thing back. I scolded her and told her to cut him off. She obviously still has feelings for dude, and she’s shared that they still speak….frequently…about everything. I told her that he is disrespecting your relationship by insinuating that you two would be good together again. She thinks…it’s not like that….suuuuuuuuure. I asked her, would you be comfortable with your man carrying on the same relationship in the same manner that you and this ex are…she said no, she hadn’t thought of it like that. Precisely.
Let’s ponder upon the things we do and conclude how we would feel if our mate (or just a friend) did some of the things we’ve done, or continue to do. Sometimes its much easier to just “do you” as opposed to putting ourselves in another person’s shoes.