Over the course of time here in the blogesphere I’ve seen many discussions about how women need to let men be men and how we need to let a man lead us, etc. etc. Then just recently I’ve started to hear that women don’t know how to be women and that we are in fact the ones that are messing up the game. I’ve really started to ponder this. I mean really…hard. What exactly is it that women are doing to mess up the game? And if indeed we are messing it up, why? (That’s a different post for a different day and I swear I’ll prolly use a guest)…I digress…
I was listening to the Luvologist on Blog Talk Radio last Sunday in a show titled “Why I Don’t Have a Man”. Many of the women cited not having a man because they simply didn’t want one. The men were quick to say that’s not true and every woman wants companionship. I believe them. I don’t think anyone wants to be alone. But anyways, the real point of this post is to dissect what’s a good man…and then to discuss why women are ruining good men for sport. But I have a question…what is a good man? How the he!l are we as women ruining them?
Since this blog is a forum for discussion I am only going to give a two things that I think make a good man. I want to hear from the ladies what you think a good man is (perhaps by the end of the day we’ll have built him) and from the men I want to know what makes you a good man.
These are my first two things (I’m sure I’ll have more in the morning):
1. A Challenge-I know I know…I can see you sitting there in shock wondering how dare I say a man should be a challenge, after all isn’t that the woman’s place? But…let’s think about this way: in order for a man to challenge a woman he must be smart, charming, witty but considerate enough to know when he is doing too much. If I can consistently just run right over you, I’m sorry but I don’t want you. Now with any challenge you cannot be afraid to lose which means this man must be courageous, but he must also have grace just in case he does lose. There also has to exist an air of patience as sometimes these challenges can take time, but there’s often a big pay out.
2.God-fearing-This is a challenge in it and of itself. If he has this one down then he likely can do anything. That’s all I’m going to say on this one 😉
Alright, I’m going to leave this one alone…ladies, tell me what would your perfect man is. If you had a machine to build him in a day would you? Gentlemen…what qualities do you as men think compose a good man? And for fun…why don’t you tell us what makes up the perfect woman…
Next Week: The Right Man