Last Tuesday I was the guest at One Fourth Random where I wrote a similar blog and this week, I’ve revised it a little and brought it home.
So that’s a pretty long clip here. I’m going to explain the basics of what’s going on …the lady (Kendra) and her boyfriend (Marcus) were guest on Tyra on Tuesday. Kendra admits in the video to hitting Marcus over 50 times, scarring his face with her stiletto, and has even spit on him. It is unbelievable and unexplainable why a woman would wanna hit a man (and vice versa even). The most appalling thing out of the entire conversation was Kendra admitting “I love him, I love him more than anything”. How in the world does she think that is showing love. Past that, when she is asked why she hits him she explains that he lies, is not on time to pick her son up and is often not where he says he is going to be. Ladies, who has been in that position? *raises hand* It becomes evident to me through the course of the video that Kendra has real issues. She just attacks him for NO REASON and actually appears to be crying. Now…as usual social networking plays a role in the story as she mentions Myspace and how another female was able to tell her all these things about Marcus. *pause* It shouldn’t have mattered one way or the other what some chick on Myspace says…if he’s with you, he’s with you…I digress. Kendra is hurting. This is evident, but that does not mean that she should attempt to inflict physical pain on Marcus.
Now…in every relationship there is going to be fighting. You’re going to get angry. You might raise your face. In fact, you might even throw a dish or two (I know I have) but I have never NOT ONE time put my hands on a man in that manner. I cannot bring myself to do that, because I believe if I love you then I love you whether we’re fighting or not.
Ladies and gentlemen October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I know people who have been abused in this manner and I know what it means to be reached out to and to reach out to someone to fix the situation. If you or anyone you know is being abused. Please don’t hesitate to contact someone. Many sites that are dedicated to domestic abuse have safe buttons that will change the page to something harmless. If you’re scared to go get info then e-mail us here at SSSO and we’ll send you the info you need for the area you’re in.
Let’s discuss. What do you all think about domestic abuse? Are there any clues that this might happen? Do you think the abusers can fix themselves and stop or will it always be this way? Do you think the abusers actually believe they love the person?