Lately I’ve been subjecting myself to the radio and I just have to cringe at some of the songs I’m hearing…because they can be so real to me and not always in a good way.
In Mario‘s song “Break Up“, he decribes what sounds like a functionally dysfunctional relationship…which I’ve probably had.
He’s confirming all of his wrongs: “I know I be…saying I’ll be right back, but take too long…I know I be…saying I’ll be faithful but, I don’t. I know I be, making you them promises, then breaking your heart again…telling you she wasn’t who she was, then we arguing – here’s the kicker – BUT BABY…I LOVE YOU! OH!”
Yet in the same breath he maintains a certain sense of cockiness: “You gon’ get me up…I’m a take ’em down…I’m a change my ways…We gon’ work it out…Girl, it wouldn’t be the same if you was with somebody else…Girl, it wouldn’t be the same if I was with somebody else – yadda, yadda, yadda – I got what you like and you know…once you lay down, it’s on”
*side note: shhhhhhhhhiiiiiiiiiiiiit Mario could get it…again and again!*
Anyway, I’ve been here and hearing it verbalized like this is all too microscopic in the sense that the lens is on me. I don’t hear…this dude is grimy, I hear…this chick is weak first.
Melanie Fiona has a song called “It Kills Me” in which she describes her qualms with her man who’s doing wrong but yet, she doesn’t want to leave all the while pretty much driving herself crazy.
She’s being very vulnerable: “But I can’t be alone, I need you to come home…I know you’re messing around but, who the hell else is gonna hold me down”
This pretty much sums it up for me…is this really love? or just being afraid to be alone? Searching the memory banks again, I KNOW I’ve experienced this as well.
And finally, Le Toya Luckett‘s “Regret“, I cannot relate too because I was never ballin’, lol. But, I mention it because the situation sounds dumb. She’s bragging about how the man that dumped her is missing out on all the shine she used to give him and how she used to take care of him. *Scratches head* Sadly, women trick too…but, our tricking is tied to an emotion. She’s trying to be like, haha…you’re a bum now…BUT sweety, you carried him throughout the relationship, tricked on him and HE dumped YOU. How is this triumphant? Anyone else agree or am I being too hard on Toya? The ex wants to get back and Ludacris is on the song also co-signing that she’s better off now.
I’m now thinking that I must associate the singer’s with their songs because radio people like Trey Songz and Genuwine just got way more appealing. Trey sang songs about doing whatever it takes to please his woman (Just Gotta Make It), not wanting to leave his lady but knows he has to make money…but HE’D BE BACK! 🙂 (Gotta Go), playing captain save-a-hoe (Can’t Help But Wait), and sounding a lot more flirtatious on his latest tracks about…well, sex 🙂
A lot of music affirms the trials and tribulations we go through in relationships whether good or bad. No one is saying anything new but I beleive they are saying it in new ways.