With all the recent hoopla surrounding Tiger Woods and his alleged infidelity there’s a subject that’s left out in the cold. We’ve analyzed his voice mail, listening to his neighbors account, what the media had to say and what he hasn’t said. Financially, there are a lot of women who stand to gain from this and one woman who stands to gain upwards of 55 million dollars to remain married to him for the next two years.
You read right, he is willing to pay her more money than most of us will ever work to make just to remain his wife til 2011.
While I am all for atonement for extra marital affairs I cannot for the life of me understand this. To me, the fact that men (and women too) are paying their mates to remain married to them says that the institution of marriage has hit an all time low. Truthfully, what makes this so hilarious is that the oldest profession in the world is meeting up with the oldest institution of the world and running amuck on life.
Let me go back a bit and say I am single (meaning not married) and one day I want to be married (wherein I leave my family & he leaves his… Genesis style… meaning we cleave unto one another) but I am unsure of whether or not I want to especially if my future husband can remain faithful only unto himself, his penis and their wants, needs and desires then pay me to remain his wife.
What happened to being committed to the commitment? Have we become such a microwave society that the commitment isn’t even necessary? Are you marrying largely for the sake of having that in-house special?
My answer to all those is that we need to get back to the basics. It used to be that people married like they were told to and made it work. Then you had your people who married for love and really made it work. I know there are great examples in history where men and cheated and women have made it work… (think Martin and Coretta… you bet not pretend you don’t know).
I personally believe that (in no disrespect to Elin Nordegren) if men made better choices and decisions, we’d all have better households. When I say this I mean to imply better choices in who men (and women too truth be told) decided to mate up and have children with were made, life would be better. I believe we’d chose mates based on who we communicate with and who makes us laugh instead of whose boobs are bigger and who can swallow more. Pick your husband/wife based on lasting attributes and perhaps we can build foundations on which the 60 year marriage can return.
I know I wanna be a cute lil old lady in the park one day… What about you? What do you think about the institution of marriage? Is it failing? Why or why not? What can we do to fix it?