Over the course of the past few months I’ve been doing a little investigation with the male folk (who, by the way, are going to be running this site next week). The entire reason I’ve been asking the questions I’ve been asking comes from a conversation I had on a date back in September. While we were in the car, I mentioned to my friend that he was driving a bit too fast for my liking (considering the bad weather and the fact that he wasn’t from here). He then put one hand on the wheel and the other on my leg and said, “Don’t worry, I got this. Why don’t you just sit back, relax and be a woman?”
Breaks started screeching in my head. After all, if nothing else I am extremely feminine. So of course, I asked him what he meant. He told me (with what I think was fear) that sistas (all of us) needed to stop with all this bossiness. He said it’s real nice and all that we have degrees and money and stuff but it doesn’t mean that we know everything, one and two, it still doesn’t give us the innate sense of maleness that men possess. A penis in the boardroom WILL NOT equal a penis in the bedroom. *pause* Now, I am realizing that not all men think this. In fact, one just challenged me on this (HOW DARE HE?!) He said if a woman is like that then she’s like that and she’s not likely to change. I believe that the Black woman does have it in her genetics to be overwhelming strong and independent but she needs to understand that in 2010 the man is only leaving because he wants to and if he does, well just remember you can do bad all by yourself (which by the way is where you’ll be if you don’t calm down some of these antics).
Anyways, this is already getting long enough and I know my sisters in the blogging world are all independent and doing their own thing. I’m definitely proud of all of us and I want us to have much success in life and love. Therefore, my question for today is:
Ladies: What are some things men have accused you of doing that were “unladylike”? Do you think the media is over blowing this whole idea?
Gentlemen: What can the ladies do to be more like ladies? Do you believe that the onset of more education and better jobs caused this or do you believe that women would have been like this regardless?