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P.O.L.E: The New Elephant in the Room January 19, 2010

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I went to this lounge the other night, one I’d been to maybe a year ago, yet now they had a pole in the middle of one of their dance floors.

(and the hood rats flocked to that thing like a magnet)

Pole parties and stripper-cise are trying to make stripping a little less taboo. It’s still one of those things that you’re not going to want to let people know that you do for an occupation. But, then again, now that I think about it, exotic dancing is different from stripping. (translation – booty clapping and slamming your body into a split on the floor = stripping…it’s all about making things jiggle, not really having a routine and trying to make men look into your eyes, lol)

That type of “dancing” has a place (several places now), your bedroom or living room if you’re doing the “workout”, a strip club, or amidst other fully-clothed women for fun (if this is your idea of fun).  I can’t imagine a regular dude being proud of his date (or woman) simulating stripping in the middle of a lounge in front of strangers.

With the right “influences” (blame it on the…) I was once “that girl” being picked up and thrown around by a dude on the dance floor…all out of fun of course. I can’t see myself getting into one of those simulated sex romps on the dance floor either…you know what I’m talking about…a couple (whether they just met or came together) are like seriously looking at each other and grinding like they had no clothes on. I think it’s funny when people are dancing and the dude is looking REAL SERIOUS as if he’s really doing something…HA! You can’t even dance face to face and two-step with a guy anymore…everybody tryna dance like they’re in a music video.


2 Responses to “P.O.L.E: The New Elephant in the Room”

  1. Claire Says:

    I agree with you about the simulated sex romps on the dance floor between girls and guys. And I really wish guys would stop taking themselves so damn seriously when they dance with you. Takes the fun out of it. But I have to disagree with you a little on the pole dancing. It is so damn fun. It feels good to move your body in a sexual way and not have anyone judge you for it. It feels good to be as sexy as you want to be and not be putting yourself in any kind of danger. I wish every woman could experience this. You are right – what happens in the clubs is different from what happens in the studios. But both are erotic and sexual and meant to be. I actually think it’s good for women to get in touch with that part of themselves. Since eroticism is something you feel mostly in your body, dance movement is a good way to explore it. And what I really truly hope is that as more women try out pole dancing, and understand how powerful their sexuality really is, more people will see female sexuality as something to be celebrated out in the open and honored, rather than hidden away, or shamed or judged. Anyway, that’s my two cents.

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