One of the most curious things about being a man is learning what being a man is all about. I am edging up on 40 this June and I am never short on the number of answers that are available.
Being a man is speaking up for what you believe in. That’s it.
I really, really need people to let boys grow up on their own terms. It is clear that the Old rules are NOT working.
Not me, Not mine. I ain’t gonna be able to do it. And I won’t.
If you have sons, let them be themselves. Teach them to rise and Fall on their own Merits and their own perceptions.
Being a man is being the strong, silent type.
Being a man is Loving women
Being a man is Money over….well, you get the point.
For the vast majority of us, we are bombarded with contradictory notions of what makes up a man. The very things that are poured into our spirits at birth as the pinnacle of manliness are things that are branded as immature and sophomoric.
Way before I got into the whole Inkognegro the Scribe Schtick, I have constantly mused on what it is that MAKES a man a man.
Growing up, what I was taught (turn the other cheek, in order to be a leader of all you must be a servant of all) never squared with what I experienced on the outisde.
Friday was a REALLY tough day for me. For a brief moment, it all seemed like it was coming apart.
That evening I was on twitter and A female friend of mine was expressing how she had pulled herself out of a Nervous breakdown largely by verbalizing that she chose life.
It stopped me cold.
” I choose Life” is a powerful statement, when you actually take it beyond sloganeering and Put it in practice.
But seriously…will “manhood” allow that kind of a statement to be made?