I’m sort of late with this post, but I figure it’s relevant not just on Valentine’s Day, but everyday.
Early on Valentine’s morning @lovebscott tweeted, “I don’t wanna scream independent anymore…I wanna start depending on you.” In my grogginess I was unsure of how I felt about that, but now that I have had little more than a week to think about it I have come up with how I fully about it.
She’s right. The media is currently selling the nightmare that most black women are going to always be single. I don’t believe this, but I do know we might have a better chance if we stopped wearing the I-word on our foreheads. I say this not because I don’t know my sisters have it going on. I see you and I’m proud but ladies, not every man needs to hear about your MBA, your new house or how much money you have in the bank. None of those things are going to get in bed and keep you warm at night.
That said, this post is not just designed to preach to the ladies about how they need to stop telling me how they have gotten to be so independent. This post is also to ask the men to be the rock that we can depend on. If you know she’s looking to you for support, don’t shirk that responsibility…That’s the worst thing you could ever do to us. I want to see men do it like the men of olden days (just like I wanna see women do the same).
I believe with this we can the black community back to where it used to be.
What say you? Ladies, are you ready to depend on a man? Gentlemen, are you ready to depended on?