The other day my girlfriend made the great point that I have many acquaintances. I think that anyone who knows me could easily see that about me. The thing that puzzled her was how I came to have all of these acquaintances. It puzzled her because she says that many of the people who are just acquaintances, I would define as once being friends. This sort of troubled me. What did these people do that was bad enough for them to be demoted to acquaintances but not bad enough for our friendship to end completely? By doing this was I missing out on the opportunity to create and build substantial friendships with my peers?
I came to the conclusion that it wasn’t the people that had done anything wrong. It was me. I was the one changing or abandoning “friends”. When I left my elementary/middle school I almost purposefully fell out of touch with the people there. The same happened in high school save for a few people. And this is starting to happen with my college friends now. Instead of trying to bring my old friends into my new world that could be advantageous to them, I felt like I was abandoning people at each stage of life. When I started to like fine dining and museums instead of video games, am I wrong when I don’t try to introduce my new found joys to them. Don’t get me wrong, I am more than comfortable cutting folks off when they aren’t a good friend. But this seems that I’m cutting people off when I’m not a good friend.
Is this something that I should be alarmed about? Am I doing something wrong?