First of all, I would like to apologize to Nicki for my comments yesterday. I meant no disrespect but still they were disrespectful.
On a lighter note: I was reading some other blogs recently and I feel that we would be remorse if we didn’t touch on the same topic that they did. This damn Drake video. I like him as a rapper. But he’s nothing special. He spits some hot sh!t but he aint on the way to being no classic. I noticed that many women have issues with the video. “Why the video aint got nothing but light skinned chicks in it?” “Why is there so many bitties in the video?” “Why are they stretching aimlessly?” THEY ARE ALL WRONG. However, I feel that his premier main stream video is ground breaking when it comes to hip hop videos. I expanded upon a comment I made on another blog. It as follows:
I think the video is ingenious and correlates to the song much better than I initially thought. When you think about it, he has a group of girls on his team that the average man would go goo goo ga ga for. Light skin, long hair, tig ole bitties, and some booty on them and they are all racially ambiguous. However, they suck at the game. They’re straight doo doo. They are like the Dwight Howard, but without the ability to dunk the ball. So they just look like they should be good at the game. Outside of their looks, they lack any real talent. To put in terms outside of basketball they lack substance. He has a bunch of these wanna be Dwight Howard’s on the team that look good but suck at the game. All he has to do to get them riled up is tell em that they’re the best. Their insecurities in their game (which is essentially their looks) force them to need that validation. However, the chicks that actually win and are good at the game are more realistic looking chicks; women of all colors and dimensions. They are the chicks that don’t need to necessarily hear the compliments. They go out and do them, day in and day out. They are the chicks who eventually get wifed up. I think this is the true message of the video and whoever is making a big deal about there being too many light skin chicks in the video is missing this. Drake is saying that his team sucks but they think that are the best and that he needs a better team. All they can do is “Take the D”.
How do ya feel about my take on the video? Do ya agree? How do ya feel about Hip hop videos on a whole?
They look like your average soccer moms, but they don’t act like them!
They’re buying those juice boxes with paychecks from their X-rated careers! Tyra talks to moms who support their families by working in adult entertainment. Get the dish from these unapologetic moms who don’t see anything wrong with their sexy careers — and them from their upset daughters who think their mother’s careers are having a negative impact on their lives.
The above is taken from the Tyra Show website. From what I can recall in seeing this episode, Tyra had two mother-daughter interviews. The mom pictured above was/is a stripper and her daughter hates it. The first mom she interviewed was pretty much a soccer mom by day and dominatrix by night…or in her spare time. Her kids did not know what she did except her eldest daughter who pretty much did not seem to have a problem with it and respected her moms decision UNTIL Tyra showed a video of a the mom “working”. (I did not think she should have done that…it’s one thing to “think” you know what she was doing and another to see it panned out in front of a live audience…or at all.)
As far as what are considered “sex industry” jobs, I did not see her “job” as being all that bad. If I were her daughter, I wouldn’t want to hear about it but I think it is better than being a prostitute or a stripper. Maybe because I understand dominatrix a little better than the audience members who were oohing and ahhing. It’s acting without the sex or the camera’s. It’s more private than stripping and less demeaning than prostitution. The only sexy thing about it are the outfits, really.
Now, I’m going to assume nobody wants their momma in any parts of the sex industry 
But, what are your thoughts of the stated situations? Dominatrix versus Stripper versus Prostitute versus Porn Star…and not even as something you would/wouldn’t want your momma doing….but in general do you see one as better than the other?
I could have written a million things today. There’s a lot to write about…I don’t really want to touch any of it. The reason why is because I want to be introspective and tell you things I’ve learned …about me…whether in my alone time or in my time with others. Deep down inside I know these are big things that make me who I am, but they are also my most fatalistic flaws…and I am just woman enough to share them. It might not make sense and it doesn’t have to…comments are necessarily required, but you may if you like…
The Woman in the Mirror...
1. Skylark-”Wildflower” should probably be my theme song…anyone who doesn’t know it can find it here:
There a couple of reasons why I picked this song…first off…Sometimes it is hard. Harder than anyone will ever be able to imagine…and yes indeed sometimes it seems like my new name should be Atlas…and yet I seem to be through though I always, always, always am on the verge of tears because I hold so many secrets…
And yet the most telling part of the song is paying for a debt you don’t owe…
The sins of our fathers are visited upon our children…
I am never untroubled…but I will always smile as though the last joke told was the funniest ever told…
Please don’t touch me…or you’ll awaken me and rest is the only solace I have
2. I excite easily…and because of this I frequently misunderstand….
A silent wind blows..and only I can hear it…
I want to go to it.
A few minutes ago…I misunderstood something because of the excitement which existed…I misunderstood something crucial…causing me to do something against my character…
Funny how time flies…time passed me by…just when it seemed the fun began…I hope you’ll allow it again some day soon…
3. Sensitivity…
Gardenias bruise with the slightest touch…I am drawn to them…
I don’t know how I do it..but my heart and easiness are my biggest problems.
I am my own worst enemy…
4. I am perfectly…imperfect.
Over-qualified…yet not qualified enough…
square pegs don’t fit in round holes.
Back in the game. I can do this…I can do this…
cause I’m not keeping score…
Cryptic sure…but as usual I’ve said too much already…
I’m really sorry..hope you can forgive me.
I wonder…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j7pa2tJEMTY
I’m obsessive about how I look. That being said, when I came across an article on Glamour magazine’s online site called 8 Little Things That Can Make You Unpretty, I had to take a peek. They listed the following:
1. Snapping Your Gum
Guilty: I do this one sometimes and I know I do it! lol I used to do it to irk my boss, on purpose. One day, he said something about me needing to take etiquette classes and was DEAD serious. I just laughed and sauntered out. I HAVE taken those classes Jerk!
2. Wearing a perma- pout
Guilty: it’s my natural face. Since my bottom lip hangs a lil’ bit, I think people always think I look angry or sad. But what do u expect? I refuse to walk around grinning like a Cheshire for no reason.
3. Being a mirror-izer
Guilty: LOL. Kanye said it best, “We all self-concious.”
4. Tugging at your strapless top
Not Guilty. I rarely do strapless clothing.
5. Cursing like a sailor
Guilty. I keep trying. I know my man hates it.. and I’m trying to be a lady. But it’s hard when no other word can describe the feeling you have in that minute better than F&*K! Plus I know it’s not very Christianly for me to keep on this track.
6. Primping in Public
No Contest. lol. I don’t know if I am guilty or not. I do constantly apply gloss!
7. Publicly criticizing your own body
Guilty. I do this but have made the effort to stop. It’s obnoxious and I know it, especially when I am not putting forth any effort to change it. Fact is, I think I look pretty good (besides wanting a lil’ lipo bc I hate working out) and my flaws, I think I disguise well about 89% of the time… so I need to quit.
8. Frying your skin.
Not guilty. I’ve been to the tanning bed prolly about three times in life, but it breaks my skin out. I’m allergic to the sun. I have tried self tanning but it stinks. lol. Soooo, I’ve elected to love the pale I am in.
Ladies, are you guilty of any of these? Men- do you agree with the list? Do you have any to add?
I get to work at 9 am. Meeting at 9:45 to 12pm. WTF are we discussing for two hours and fifteen minutes!!?? However, that torture meeting birthed this blog topic. The Deputy Commissioner, (The Big Dog, the HCIC, the Big Kahuna, Big Aristotle) mentioned the axis of evil. She defined it as a collection of forces, tangible or intangible, human or non human, that when brought together cause little to no good. (Like the opposite of the planeteers). When I heard of this term I immediately thought of WWII but since I wasnt there I started to think of axis of evil that I have encountered in my life.
I was sitting with the S.O. as she perused facebook. After our normal facebook stalking viewing, which includes tagged photos and wall to wall, she decided to sign off of facebook. This confused me because we hadnt even gotten to look at other ppl’s wall to wall which is my favorite part (insert sarcastic voice that captures how much I hate this stalkerish part of women). She then proceeded to type in an email address and password that I had never seen her use before. I initially thought that she had a secret facebook account that she was hiding from me, and heck she knows about my two accounts. I was relieved of this fear when the password/email combo didnt work. She shrieked, “This b!tch done changed her password”. I’m still confused as to why she was trying to use this person’s account but before I could ask, she was calling the chick to get her password. Chick doesnt answer, so the SO leaves a message, which included no pleasantries what so ever, and asks for the password. It is now when I ask “Why do you NEED her password? Who is she? Why would she give it to you?”
This is what I got in response: This chick is a friend associate. (They didnt even chill like that). A group of girls, around ten in total, had exchanged passwords. They did this for the sole purpose of advancing their stalker agendas and to enhance their ability to keep track of their competition. She said that the group was handpicked because each member brought a specific set of skills their individual friend networks. The system was based on reciprocity and changing of passwords without informing the other members of the group was grounds for expulsions.
I just dont see what good this can bring. If this isnt a collection of ten jawns brought together for the sole purpose of causing havoc to the dating world. I’ve heard of other diabolical female conglomerates, so I think this is pretty widespread throughout the womandom. What do you say of this phenomenon? Am I wrong in calling this group and groups like this an axis of evil? Do they cause any good? Do you know of one? Are you in one? Do us fellas have these? I just wanna know
I have a lot of Joy Behar (from the View) moments:
Sometimes I’m a Whoopi, trying to find the silver lining…sometimes I’m an Elizabeth, very passionate….and I even have Sherry times, where I just don’t know what people are talking about…
I have to say so what? who cares? about this politician and his extramarital affairs in Argentina. Remember when our politicians were screwing around and everyone knew but nobody really cared? I wanna go back to that. President JFK may be the most notorious playboy in the history of the white house and no one ever wanted to put him on a stand and judge him or wanted him to resign from his postion.
We really tried to impeach a President because he got some head….are we that bored, now?I really don’t care to hear how this “Maria” broad is this politician’s soul mate and how he’s trying to have the same love for his wife…who da f*ck cares? I feel like as long as your doing your job…making my city work, accomplishing the things you set out to accomplish while in office…f*ck whoever you want 
If you wanna go back too….lemme know!
In my recent travels through the dating world I’ve come across a lot of different things…we all know that I don’t kick you off the roster for any old offense but it does take some real stuff for me to do it. Anyways, there are two big things that have been said to me in the past three months that really stood out…
Sometimes the spark leaves and you can’t really get it back.
The Outdoorsy one said this to me one day. I just looked at him like he’d lost his mind. Whatever do you mean? Of course you can get the spark back-that’s why people always talk about reigniting the flames. So anyways…I had to think about these for a number of days. Is he right? Well…upon further ruminations I realized that he is right. The spark may get low, but doesn’t fully die. Here’s what I learned from him though…each individual’s spark may die…his or mine, but the other person’s flame likely shines so bright there’s generally no reason to part.
The second thing I’ve learned is much more in detail…
An older man…(we all know I like those) outlined for me several marital tenets. I just want to high light about three…bear with me please.
1. Each mate’s rights. OK …here we go…the scenario is the following…you and your husband have had a fight he calls you and tells you he’s gonna blow off steam with the boys. Don’t hold dinner and he’ll be home at a reasonable time. At 5pm you call and tell him to come home. Welp…apparently we ladies (the gentlemen too) have the right to request that their mate come home.
2. There should be no sex before marriage. This one was tough for me. I could not believe anyone in 2009 would ev er tell me this. After an explanation of why (knowing how I’ve done things lately) I’d say he might be correct. Sex really does cloud things. And the sheer anticipation of it all plus wanting to please your new husband or wife makes that release oh so sweet.
3. IF a woman cheats, it’s the man’s fault. I’m gonna side eye this and we’ll talk about it later
Anyways, the final thing is so much more shocking that I can’t even enumerate it I want it to be read in this paragraph.
Much like Jada told Will..there will be no divorce. Anything that comes up has to be worked on. I think this is a good idea. Think about it…you understand at the very beginning of everything you already know what you’ll have to work on. You know ahead of time that this is your mate and they have your back…
MUSIC BREAK: I’m feeling this song right now - Mary J. Blige- \”Steal Away\” I wonder why this song wasn’t released as a single… when I first heard it, I played it OUT. This one too- Justin Timberlake- \”Let\’s Take a Ride\”.
Anywho, both songs are about basically packing up and leaving. Mary’s is more short term- she wants to go for just a day. I’d love to do that (with my beau right beside me). I want to escape plenty of things- my job, my friends, bills, school, my cell phone- Life.
My dream “steal away” moment would be at least a week… We’d rent a convertible (I wanna feel the wind on my scalp) and just drive with no real plan. We’d stop and see the sites and eat at restaurants that you might see showcased on “Diners, Drive-ins and Dives.” (If u don’t know, I love to eat- it’s my favorite.) The hotels we’d stay in don’t have to be anything exquisite, but I’d strongly prefer nothing that can be mistaken as the setting of Vacancy.
What about you- what would u steal away from? Where would you go? What would you do? Who would you screw take? (Those last three questions are the chorus to “24 Hours to Live,” btw.)
With the passing of a great and prolific pop icon I would like for us to take the time to “remember the time” of something great in our lives…. A lot of times we take things for granted… we often worry and ponder about things against our will. At this time what has happened in your life that you remember that is a “great defining” moment or a person who has been instrumental in making you the person you are today??
While you think read these lyrics from Micheal Jackson’s Remember The Time…..
When We Fell In Love
We Were Young
And Innocent Then
Do You Remember
How It All Began
It Just Seemed Like Heaven
So Why Did It End?
Do You Remember
Back In The Fall
We’d Be Together
All Day Long
Do You Remember
Us Holding Hands
In Each Other’s Eyes
We’d Stare
(Tell Me)
Do You Remember The Time
When We Fell In Love
Do You Remember The Time
When We First Met
Do You Remember The Time
When We Fell In Love
Do You Remember The Time
Do You Remember
How We Used To Talk
(Ya Know)
We’d Stay On The Phone
At Night Till Dawn
Do You Remember
All The Things We Said Like
I Love You So
I’ll Never Let You Go
Do You Remember
Back In The Spring
Every Morning Birds Would Sing
Do You Remember
Those Special Times
They’ll Just Go On And On
In The Back Of My Mind
Do You Remember The Time
When We Fell In Love
Do You Remember The Time
When We First Met Girl
Do You Remember The Time
When We Fell In Love
Do You Remember The Time
Those Sweet Memories
Will Always Be Dear To Me
And Girl No Matter What Was Said
I Will Never Forget What We Had
Now Baby
Do You Remember The Time
When We Fell In Love
Do You Remember The Time
When We First Met
Do You Remember The Time
When We Fell In Love
Do You Remember The Time
Do You Remember The Time
When We Fell In Love
Do You Remember The Time
When We First Met
Do You Remember The Time
When We Fell In Love
Do You Remember The Time
Remember The Times
Ooh
Remember The Times
Do You Remember Girl
Remember The Times
On The Phone You And Me
Remember The Times
Till Dawn, Two Or Three
What About Us Girl
Remember The Times
Do You. Do You, Do You,
Do You, Do You
Remember The Times
In The Park, On The Beach
Remember The Times
You And Me In Spain
Remember The Times
What About, What About…
Remember The Times
Ooh… In The Park
Remember The Times
After Dark…, Do You, Do You, Do You
Remember The Times
Do You, Do You, Do You, Do You
Remember The Times
Yeah Yeah
Remember The Times
WE LOVE AND MISS YOU MJ!
Last week while cleaning the bathroom I heard something interesting come out of my TV:
“South Carolina governor Mark Sanford has disappeared. There has been no word of his whereabouts. His family and staff are deeply concerned.”
I thought…oh no-something must be really wrong. Then I thought..nope he’s done something wrong…stole money? Made a deal for a Senate seat? Then I realized he must be having an affair.
BINGO!
Little did I know that a mere one week later it would come out that he was in Argentina, where his lover is from. I never would have believed that his wife would stand by his side and announce that yes she knew about the affair and indeed had known all along, but was trying to work out. She further noted that there would be a trial separation to help her preserve dignity and respect (especially among her children).
Trial separation? And you’re still standing there…he wants to work it out and that’s fine and all…but how could he work out his marriage in Argentina? Somebody tell me is there something I’m missing here?
Ladies, would you take him back or allow this option? Men, would you indeed any of what former Gov. Sanford did?
Oh and anybody seen Peyso?
